By Christian Carter Dating Advice For Women
Using The “Magic” of Intuition With Men
Have you ever felt “magic” with a man?
Like when the connection you and a guy share is so strong that something inside you just tells you've got something real and special.
That connection and chemistry is almost impossible to describe to someone who doesn't have it, but it's even more impossible to ignore when you've got it.
Even if you know the guy isn't the right kind of guy to be wanting to settle down with.
You can't stop thinking about the man and the connection - it's like a spell over the both of you.
Infatuation, crushes, connections, chemistry or even the “L” word.
That's right, LOVE.
At one time or another, one of these have had almost magical powers over you that make you see, feel and act in ways you never would have before.
Well, believe it or not, there's other magic waiting for you beyond connections or chemistry when it comes to men, dating and relationships.
The best part is that you've got your very own kind of “magic” up your sleeve that you can tap into whenever you want and use it for your own immediate benefit.
What kind of magic and what kind of benefits you ask?
Using this magic could mean the difference between finding out any major issues a guy has before they become a real problem OR getting your heart broken and never have seen it coming.
Let me ask you...
Have you ever been with a guy and he seemed to have it all together?
He was caring, loving, generous, present and aware and you had such an amazing time together.
But then some of his issues popped up out of NOWHERE.
Maybe his issues were some of the dreaded and common ones we predictable and difficult men go through like these:
- He started getting restless and he talked about how he wasn't really ready to settle down.
- He didn't see things getting as serious as you did.
- The connection started fading. He didn't try to connect to you much anymore and share his intimate feelings.
- You weren't a priority. He wanted to spend his time with his friends or other people and didn't value the time you spent together like you did.
- He started flirting, talking to or even getting together with other women even if he wasn't technically “cheating”.
Recognize any of these?
What's going on here?
Here's where your “magic” comes in.
(When I say “magic” in this case, I mean something that will give you perception and insights into situations before and while they're happening)
OK, you might already be thinking,
“Has he lost it?”
“What in the world is he talking about MAGIC for?”
“Who believes in that stuff anyways?”
I'm with you there...
The magic I'm talking about here isn't that far out stuff about conjuring up spells or changing into an animal.
Let's leave that kind of magic to Harry Potter and your imagination.
The magic I'm talking about is different and exists in the real world, but it's just as amazing.
And it centers around an important idea-
*You instinctively know more about what's going on in the world around you than you or your conscious mind fully recognizes.
Wow, getting pretty heavy here.
Don't worry... I'll bring this back down to earth and land the plane quickly. And that's where this will get fascinating...
Here's the kicker-
You ALREADY HAVE this magical ability.
All you have to do is tune into it.
Easier said than done, right. So how does that work?
This “magic” is something that comes “pre-wired” in your brain because of the way your consciousness and your subconscious mind is hooked up to the rest of your complex body systems and senses.
So the good news is that this ability is there for you anytime you want to use it.
But the bad news is that you have to take time to fully tune into it and recognize your ability. Kind of like a practice.
Music is a good analogy for this - You can't just pick up an instrument and start playing, right?
But once you start to become more aware of the instrument, the music and how to play, things start to naturally fall into place.
Sounds, melodies and rhythms just start to flow out of you while you're in the moment.
It's like they appear out of thin air and nothing could feel more natural. And your mind is able to process all the information coming at it and use it to anticipate what's next.
Well, this is EXACTLY what this magical ability of yours is like.
Your mind is constantly picking up on information from your environment, even when you're not really conscious of it.
And all that information is being “processed” over and over to try and calculate the risk, danger, and expectations from your environment to try to find a way towards the outcome you want.
So let's get to it. What is this “magical” ability?
And why am I talking about it?
Well, I'll start with what the ability is...
**INTUITION**
You're probably already familiar with the word.
But stop right there...
When you hear the term “intuition”, it's easy to attach all of your previous feelings and beliefs about it and dismiss it as some kind of new age “flaky” stuff.
I hear you, but indulge me here by keeping an open mind for a few minutes- I'll make it worth your while.
How?
Well, to put it simply, you'd be cheating yourself by not spending the couple of minutes or so that it takes to open your mind to the natural power of your intuition and how to tune into it.
And that couple of minutes could help you solve some of the age-old challenges women have about knowing and understanding what's really inside a man's heart and mind.
I mean, it's not like men make it very easy for women, right?
I don't have to tell you, but MEN ARE BAD COMMUNICATORS when it comes to their feelings, emotions and intentions around love and relationships.
So knowing that men are often this way, you have a choice here:
You can either do nothing about it and continue to be shocked, frustrated, surprised and hurt by the things you find out about men after the fact.
Or...
You can start to create a more perceptive and insightful way of being in your own life and relationships by using more the natural intuitive abilities you already have.
Which one will it be?
Cool... so you're ready to tune into your own intuitive ability.
Good call - let's get rolling.
Using Your Intuition With Men And Dating
Using your intuition might be the best, and in some situations the ONLY, way that you'll be able to see through all the external “behavior stuff” going on with a man and get to the truth of what's really happening inside his mind and what his behavior is when you're not around.
Like when a man plays hard to get, or he doesn't call you much or initiate, or when a man gets close and then withdraws from you right after.
Why do men do this?
For each one of these I've got some interesting insights and theories that can help.
But...
From my perspective, there are some extremely important concepts that you need to understand before you can really “get” where a man is coming from or understand what his behaviors and issues are all about.
First, you need to build your foundation of understanding and make sure your own personal belief systems aren't all mixed up. If they are, there's no way for you to see the real “cause and effect” around you.
You'll just see what your mind is fearful and afraid of, and it will only pick out and see what it knows from the past.
Which is usually is a result of a few things you've experienced before.
Including good relationships, bad relationships, pain, broken trust, destructive behaviors, etc...
Humans learn in all kind of fascinating ways, but not all of them produce decisions and conclusions that reflect the reality of what's actually going on.
That's why I find belief systems so fascinating. Our minds basically act as giant pattern recognition machines - which can either lead us to right or wrong conclusions and ways of perceiving our environment.
But let's bring this back down to earth...
Do you know anyone women close to you who've had difficult relationships in the past?
And now they often have unfounded and negative fears about any man around them?
Their past experiences have had a huge impact on their personal beliefs and how they see themselves and the world.
Anyways, before I get even more off on a tangent-
I've got to get on with it, so I'll need to give you abridged version. In other words, the very shortest route to get away from counterproductive thoughts and beliefs you might already have and onto positive results.
Here are some of the most important concepts you'll need to keep in your mind as you move towards listening to and using your intuition with men:
1. Men Don't Make Sense
All those frustrating things that men do that don't make any sense to you as a woman will NEVER MAKE SENSE. Stop trying to make sense of them for yourself. Trying to make sense of a man in your own terms is entirely counterproductive and gets little or no results other than you becoming increasingly frustrated.
There's a better way.
2. You Can't Figure Everything Out
Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy but after a few weeks or months, even though things seemed great, the man pulled away and starting acting distant and cold?
Most men, at one time or another, do things like this that are ridiculous and impossible to figure out. So EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does. If you can become more comfortable with the idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man does what he does, then you'll feel a strange sense of calm relaxation - along with an increase in your own self-confidence.
I'm not saying that it's OK for a man to do whatever and that you should accept any negative and withdrawing behaviors without bringing it up and confronting it.
You absolutely should take notice and make mention of these things when you see them.
But the more relaxed and positive you can think and feel around these things, no matter what the man is doing, the sooner you'll stop fighting everything in your mind and start creating better situations for yourself.
It's frustrating and counterintuitive, but accepting what's going on and moving forward from that reality in a positive way changes the whole frame of the situation.
But some women get stuck in the “I need to understand why he does this and THEN I'll figure out what to do, think and feel” mindset.
This almost never leads to clear thinking and positive action. Remember, men don't make any sense. So don't depend on their actions making sense for you to develop your own opinions, judgments and next steps.
Pay attention to your gut, what you want in your life and what you know is right instead of rationalizing and finding a way for it to all fit together and be OK.
3. Ask Yourself Questions, Be Patient And Your Intuition Will Talk
Your intuition talks to you through feelings, images, and bodily sensations such as “gut feelings”. Learn to pay attention to what these are trying to tell you and what's going on when they pop up in your mind.
Maybe you're being more open and relaxed when those intuitive gut feelings come to you - so try to get back to that place more often. This way you'll end up being able to tap into your intuition more often when you need it.
If you don't think you have a strong intuitive sense, simply try asking yourself more questions and keep them mulling around in your mind.
When you've got something in the back of your mind, something amazing happens without you even trying.
Your brain takes notice and uses all your senses to find any sign or trace of information that relates to your questions as you go about your day.
It's kind of like a search running in the background on your computer - even though you're doing something else it doesn't stop looking.
After you've asked your questions, your mind will start sending you ideas, feelings and images without you even thinking about it. But sometimes this takes more time than you'd like.
Finally, your intuitive voice will eventually just pop up and start to give you hints and information without you even asking for it. And then it's up to you to pay attention, acknowledge it and make good use of it.
4. Think Positive - Don't Fill Your Mind With Fear And Doubt
Some women end up worrying almost obsessively that something is wrong or going badly with a guy they're interested in or dating once they see some negative sign or pattern.
And once this happens, they want to know what's going on so intently that they start letting their negative and obsessive thoughts take over.
If you want to be able to use your intuition, you need to start interrupting that voice in your head that's the “fear-monger”.
You know the one - that voice that's always worrying just to try and keep you safe and protected.
The thing is, you can't find the truth in a situation if you if your mind is buried in your fears and doubts.
Just like how overly arrogant people can be misled by their false sense of belief in themselves.
Keep a balanced and objective mindset.
5. Start With Smaller, Less Important Questions For Your Intuition To Answer
If your new to using your intuition or you're concerned with if or how to act on it, start with smaller things that might be less important - like whether or not you should go away for the weekend or if your friend will like the gift you've been thinking about for them.
That way, you can be practicing and learn to use your intuition without doing it in high-risk or high-pressure situations. This will help you develop your abilities and become more comfortable to trust what you find with your intuition.
6. Act On Your Intuition With The “Long-Term” In Mind
Years ago I had a huge learning experience when it came to using and listening to my intuition in the right way.
The situation came up when I was worried that a few people I worked with, who were my managers at the time, we're talking about me and scrutinizing my work more closely than they had before.
Feeling and sensing the scrutiny, I immediately felt worried about my job and wondered if they were thinking about letting me go.
The company had laid off several employees a few months before, so I began to think that their extra attention to my work must have something to do with another round of cost-cutting.
Anyways, aside from my own professional insecurities at the time, my gut told me that something bad was coming.
So what should I do?
I was really worried.
I decided to push myself even harder at work to try and show them how valuable I was in hopes that I would keep my job. But that uncomfortable and nervous feeling in my stomach that came with my intuition about their scrutiny of my work stayed with me for the next several weeks.
Well, it turns out that my managers were watching me and judging my performance. But it wasn't for the reasons I feared.
A few weeks later I was called into a meeting with the managers who had been watching me closely.
Walking down the hall to the meeting, I had a lump in my throat and a turning stomach.
My intuition was leading me to the conclusion that this was it - I was getting fired for the first time in my life.
I couldn't believe it.
So I walked into the meeting feelings anxious, defensive and tense.
As I sat down, one of my managers could immediately sense my discomfort and asked me what was wrong.
Without provocation, I immediately started defending my job and showing my insecurities.
My emotions got the best of me and I even said a few negative things about the managers themselves, as I wanted to place what I saw as equal blame on the managers for the companies problems.
They quickly stopped me once I started into these issues.
Then they let me know that they had been watching my performance because they wanted to put me in charge of a new division. They wanted to be confident in their decision so they paid extra attention to my work to be sure - and now they were.
I breathed a huge sigh of relief and my mood completely changed.
End of story.
Thinking back, my intuition had alerted me so that I'd be aware of what was going on.
But the mistake I made was taking that information and using it to justify my own fears and insecurities.
If I would have taken the information, been patient with it and applied it towards my goals in a positive context, then the entire experience knowing that the managers were watching my work would have been fun and enjoyable.
But I didn't use my intuition to see my way to something better, I simply used it as a means to worry and stress myself out.
So all this talk about intuition.
How does it really apply to the men in your life, dating and relationships?
Well, take a man with some of those common negative behaviors we were talking about earlier-
- fear of intimacy
- inability to commit
- flirting, cheating
Intuition can help you see past these things and understand them in the larger context of the deeper real “psychological and emotional stuff” that's hiding beneath the surface.
Your intuition could even help you cut through a man's ego and persona to get to the real person that's hard to find.
I bet you've known a man who other women think would never settle down or have a sensitive side. But you've seen that this actually does have more long term intimate feelings and emotional attachments buried underneath.
Intuition is probably the best tool for being able to identify good and bad qualities in a man - and knowing them for what they are.
A man's external or surface behavior and attitude can be very different than his deeper desires and intentions - as you probably already know.
Some men are, unfortunately, just good at playing the part of an emotionally stable, available and loving guy for a while, even if they aren't.
So it's really up to YOU to learn to get to the “deeper emotional truth” of any man you're interested in or dating.
And yeah, I know men can be sooo frustrating for women.
In a better world, men would be able to tell you honestly and sincerely where they were at.
But as you know, MEN SUCK sometimes.
They can be HORRIBLY out of touch when it comes to feelings and emotions.
So if you're constantly surprised, blind-sided or confused by what people around you do, (most of all men) then it's time to get in touch with the amazing intuitive ability you have waiting for you.
To take your intuition to the next level - the more you already know the better.
For some of the best knowledge out there on what's inside a man's mind, how to identify good men (or the wrong guys), and to read more about the common behaviors most men have when they're either smitten with a woman or desperately unable to get it together, then check out my ebook “Catch Him And Keep Him”.
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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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Sunday, May 04, 2008
Monday, April 28, 2008
Why Men Withdraw and What to do
Why Men Withdraw,
And What To Do About It
Written by Christian Carter (NOT Jay from Weekenddating)
Tons of women do this one thing.
And it must leave them feeling awful...
I wonder if you do it too?
I'm talking about women who hide their true feelings from a man and fear sharing their desire for a closer relationship and for love.
Ever felt this way?
It's happens when you won't communicate directly with a man about your feelings because you think you'll “scare him away”.
Unfortunately, you're right... it could scare him away.
The way you talk to a man about a relationship turns out to be THE BIGGEST MISTAKE ANY WOMAN CAN MAKE WITH A MAN.
I'll come back to this giant mistake in just a quick second...
First, I'd like to talk about what I've seen in the dating world as a guy and share a FASCINATING story with you.
I've had women communicate their feelings with me in all sorts of different ways from joy to anger to frustration, and I know what each one does to a man.
(and in a larger context, what communicating this way does to any person in general - man or woman)
There's a pattern to the dating experiences that I'd like to share.
THE STORY GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS...
(let's pretend I'm the man in this story and you're the woman)
You and I meet. We both like each other. (lucky me!)
Feelings develop for us both on several levels. (physically, emotionally, socially)
You try to be “patient” and not express too many feelings and what you want to play it cool.
We have a great “connection”, but we never talk about what we want in our future around dating, a relationship or marriage.
Time goes by and things are great for us.
Eventually, you begin to see that you're not getting what you want from me in the relationship.
You want more, but you're scared of talking to me about it because you don't know where I'm at.
You're scared because I've talked to you about all the bad experiences I've had with women in the past.
And sometimes I even make negative remarks about women and their emotions.
You don't want to ruin the good things we have going and rock the boat, but in the back of your mind you know that you'll want to deal with the negative emotions that are slowly but surely building in your mind.
Then as I start to see us growing closer, I begin to use my past issues to tell you that I'm not looking for much more than what we have right now.
So you don't say anything to me directly to communicate what's going on for you and your feelings.
And of course, being a normal guy, I don't say anything either. (Of course, I'm a man!)
You become frustrated and confused that I'm not acting how I used to act.
Things begin to change with the way I treat you.
I don't pay as much attention to you anymore.
I don't surprise you or bring you flowers anymore.
I'm tired everyday after work and just want to watch tv when I get home.
I call you less frequently.
I don't initiate sex as much anymore.
You even consider that I could be seeing someone else.
And after a few months - I've become distant.
So what happens next?
You decide you're not happy with where things are and it's time to have a talk about where we're at.
But you're SCARED of expressing your feelings about what you want, so you let things build up inside you until you begin to let your frustrations with me show.
And to wrap the story up...
You make THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE WITH A MAN...
You start a conversation about the relationship and then you “let me have it”!
(you get upset and lose your cool with me)
All your desires, fears, frustrations and dreams that you've been holding inside away from me all pour out in one big emotional explosion...
This “Big Mistake” can take the form of arguing and yelling, but not exclusively.
Sometimes it's just extreme intensity, perhaps tears.
It might include:
- Complaining about the current state of the relationship
- Talking about the things he does wrong with you
- Showing your frustrations about what you feel is missing
- Becoming upset that he doesn't feel how you'd like him to feel
- Bringing up past issues, arguments or disappointments
But it always creates a lot of emotional tension and “drama”. Especially in the guys mind.
This is THE LAST THING you want to do with a man if you want to get some positive result with him.
That tension that's created stays with him, and he NEVER forgets it.
In his mind, he now thinks of you as “hysterical” and full of issues. His mind defines you by what he saw in your behavior, and it scares him.
Yep, I know it's not fair, but it's the man's weird and twisted reality...
I've heard hundreds, maybe thousands, of men talk about this exact perception of a woman and how they fear being with a woman who they think will make this giant mistake.
Yeah, I know... it's inmature, selfish and not fair of the man, but it's the reality of the situation that lots of women end up in with men.
So how do you avoid this....? I'll tell you how in THREE EASY STEPS.
Step 1) You Need To Understand What's Going On Inside The Mind Of Your Man...
Let me tell it to you straight, as a man...
Women secretly believe that their connection with a man will “naturally” turn into something deeper without any communication taking place.
Kind of like it's the unspoken truth about what's
going on.
Honestly... this isn't how it works for us men.
If you're “assuming” you have a relationship, and that he feels like you do, you're wrong.
Men don't assume that a connection, being together, spending quality time and all the rest means they're in a committed relationship.
Some men do, but not most.
For a man to know he's in a committed relationship, and understand the things YOU want in that relationship, YOU have to communicate with him in CLEAR AND DIRECT terms.
Yeah, that's right... You have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable.
Scary!
But I hear lots of women think that other women are just lucky to have found such a great guy.
And while there are some men who are more equipped and ready for a healthy situation with a woman, it's NOT luck that women in great relationships have found a way to communicate with their guy.
That's right, they've taken time to find the right information and to learn to integrate a certain way of communicating into their thinking and behavior.
It's not easy, but there's help.
Step 2) You Need To Understand What Causes You To Make “The Big Mistake”
EVERYONE wants to have THEIR needs met first. It's basic human nature.
But being able to delay your gratification is an AMAZING thing to develop in your life. (in every part of your life!)
Most people (men and women) want to talk, talk, talk about what THEY think and what THEY want.
The root of this problem basically boils down to needs that are unmet.
So making “The Big Mistake” is really all about being driven by your unmet needs and desires and solely focusing on what YOU want the relationship to be, without honestly and critically considering the man's perspective, his emotional state, his commuication skills and where he's coming from at the same time.
When you do this with a man, you are subconsciously telling him that you're more interested in your feelings and what YOU want than you are in his feelings and what he wants.
And men can read and pick up on women who do this instantly.
I see a form of this “Big Mistake” communication all the time in business by the way.
Some business professionals are the worst at this self-absorbed “need” oriented communication.
Like when someone calls me who wants to get something from me or sell me something and they're not very experienced or polished at it.
The first thing I pick up on is their selfish agenda... and it instantly puts me on the defensive.
But if they've done their “homework” on me and what I'm looking for, and not what THEY WANT from me, when they talk it changes the whole situation the second they show me they've thought about what I want.
It's very simple but extremely powerful.
So let's take this concept directly back to communicating with men.
It might sound cliche', but you've got to learn to listen and understand where's he's at and where's he's coming from.
This cliche' is a around for a reason.
It works.
Patience, empathy and understanding are the first steps towards creating the relationship you dream about.
But you've got to be careful to not become the woman who gives him EVERYTHING and gets walked on.
Use your common sense and intuition to safeguard yourself - I know that your female perceptive abilities aren't used nearly enough, so put these strong tools to good use.
Step 3) How To Avoid Making The Big Mistake
Let me give you a vital piece of information when dealing with men...
Men are CLUELESS when it comes to identifying the things that are “obvious” to women in dating and relationships.
I would know. It's taken me ten years to begin to understand these things for myself - and I spend a LOT of time thinking about it.
Sorry though, I'm “spoken for”... (Oh Please, get over yourself Christian!!)
Ok, enough self-indulgent humor, back to you.
So we know men are AWFUL at initiating and participating in conversations about deep emotions and relationships.
Sorry to break the bad news, but it's almost always up to you to make this communication happen.
It's important to remember to approach the entire conversation from the perspective of talking about what you want AND what he wants.
If you can make a guy feel like you put his feelings and needs a priority in this conversation, and always consider what he wants, I promise he will LOVE YOU for it!
There's no rule that says you can't consider another persons opinions and feelings first in order to get what you want.
In fact, a key goal in negotiating is to let the other person talk first.
When you get to listen first, you ALWAYS have the advantage. You know exactly what the other person wants... and knowledge is influence and power.
I'm not saying you need to take on hard-core negotiating here with a man, but some of the same rules and principles about people and psychology apply.
When you talk to a man from a positive place of listening first, he will be 10,000 times more receptive to what you have to say and what you want once you bring it up than if you approach him from a place of feeling hurt, communicate need and projecting fear and anxiety.
Try this instead.
Ask a positive question or give a positive statement such as, “Honey, I was thinking today that I was happy to be with you.”
It might sound submissive, corny or difficult to say to someone you're having a tough time with, but think about it...
If you're going through all the trouble to worry so much about the future with this person, this is already what you're thinking.
You might want to check out what could be the world's best collection of ideas, strategies, insights and research on the subject of how to avoid the Big Mistakes, and other big mistakes in my ebook, “Catch Him And Keep Him”.
It's full off specific ways to communicate with a man that will instantly amplify the attraction he feels for you and help move things quickly and smoothly from “casual” to “committed” in no time flat.
I've spent the better part of the last year making sure my ebook will give you REAL WORLD ANSWERS and solutions to the things you're dealing with when it comes to men.
Go check it out right now:
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Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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And What To Do About It
Written by Christian Carter (NOT Jay from Weekenddating)
Tons of women do this one thing.
And it must leave them feeling awful...
I wonder if you do it too?
I'm talking about women who hide their true feelings from a man and fear sharing their desire for a closer relationship and for love.
Ever felt this way?
It's happens when you won't communicate directly with a man about your feelings because you think you'll “scare him away”.
Unfortunately, you're right... it could scare him away.
The way you talk to a man about a relationship turns out to be THE BIGGEST MISTAKE ANY WOMAN CAN MAKE WITH A MAN.
I'll come back to this giant mistake in just a quick second...
First, I'd like to talk about what I've seen in the dating world as a guy and share a FASCINATING story with you.
I've had women communicate their feelings with me in all sorts of different ways from joy to anger to frustration, and I know what each one does to a man.
(and in a larger context, what communicating this way does to any person in general - man or woman)
There's a pattern to the dating experiences that I'd like to share.
THE STORY GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS...
(let's pretend I'm the man in this story and you're the woman)
You and I meet. We both like each other. (lucky me!)
Feelings develop for us both on several levels. (physically, emotionally, socially)
You try to be “patient” and not express too many feelings and what you want to play it cool.
We have a great “connection”, but we never talk about what we want in our future around dating, a relationship or marriage.
Time goes by and things are great for us.
Eventually, you begin to see that you're not getting what you want from me in the relationship.
You want more, but you're scared of talking to me about it because you don't know where I'm at.
You're scared because I've talked to you about all the bad experiences I've had with women in the past.
And sometimes I even make negative remarks about women and their emotions.
You don't want to ruin the good things we have going and rock the boat, but in the back of your mind you know that you'll want to deal with the negative emotions that are slowly but surely building in your mind.
Then as I start to see us growing closer, I begin to use my past issues to tell you that I'm not looking for much more than what we have right now.
So you don't say anything to me directly to communicate what's going on for you and your feelings.
And of course, being a normal guy, I don't say anything either. (Of course, I'm a man!)
You become frustrated and confused that I'm not acting how I used to act.
Things begin to change with the way I treat you.
I don't pay as much attention to you anymore.
I don't surprise you or bring you flowers anymore.
I'm tired everyday after work and just want to watch tv when I get home.
I call you less frequently.
I don't initiate sex as much anymore.
You even consider that I could be seeing someone else.
And after a few months - I've become distant.
So what happens next?
You decide you're not happy with where things are and it's time to have a talk about where we're at.
But you're SCARED of expressing your feelings about what you want, so you let things build up inside you until you begin to let your frustrations with me show.
And to wrap the story up...
You make THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE WITH A MAN...
You start a conversation about the relationship and then you “let me have it”!
(you get upset and lose your cool with me)
All your desires, fears, frustrations and dreams that you've been holding inside away from me all pour out in one big emotional explosion...
This “Big Mistake” can take the form of arguing and yelling, but not exclusively.
Sometimes it's just extreme intensity, perhaps tears.
It might include:
- Complaining about the current state of the relationship
- Talking about the things he does wrong with you
- Showing your frustrations about what you feel is missing
- Becoming upset that he doesn't feel how you'd like him to feel
- Bringing up past issues, arguments or disappointments
But it always creates a lot of emotional tension and “drama”. Especially in the guys mind.
This is THE LAST THING you want to do with a man if you want to get some positive result with him.
That tension that's created stays with him, and he NEVER forgets it.
In his mind, he now thinks of you as “hysterical” and full of issues. His mind defines you by what he saw in your behavior, and it scares him.
Yep, I know it's not fair, but it's the man's weird and twisted reality...
I've heard hundreds, maybe thousands, of men talk about this exact perception of a woman and how they fear being with a woman who they think will make this giant mistake.
Yeah, I know... it's inmature, selfish and not fair of the man, but it's the reality of the situation that lots of women end up in with men.
So how do you avoid this....? I'll tell you how in THREE EASY STEPS.
Step 1) You Need To Understand What's Going On Inside The Mind Of Your Man...
Let me tell it to you straight, as a man...
Women secretly believe that their connection with a man will “naturally” turn into something deeper without any communication taking place.
Kind of like it's the unspoken truth about what's
going on.
Honestly... this isn't how it works for us men.
If you're “assuming” you have a relationship, and that he feels like you do, you're wrong.
Men don't assume that a connection, being together, spending quality time and all the rest means they're in a committed relationship.
Some men do, but not most.
For a man to know he's in a committed relationship, and understand the things YOU want in that relationship, YOU have to communicate with him in CLEAR AND DIRECT terms.
Yeah, that's right... You have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable.
Scary!
But I hear lots of women think that other women are just lucky to have found such a great guy.
And while there are some men who are more equipped and ready for a healthy situation with a woman, it's NOT luck that women in great relationships have found a way to communicate with their guy.
That's right, they've taken time to find the right information and to learn to integrate a certain way of communicating into their thinking and behavior.
It's not easy, but there's help.
Step 2) You Need To Understand What Causes You To Make “The Big Mistake”
EVERYONE wants to have THEIR needs met first. It's basic human nature.
But being able to delay your gratification is an AMAZING thing to develop in your life. (in every part of your life!)
Most people (men and women) want to talk, talk, talk about what THEY think and what THEY want.
The root of this problem basically boils down to needs that are unmet.
So making “The Big Mistake” is really all about being driven by your unmet needs and desires and solely focusing on what YOU want the relationship to be, without honestly and critically considering the man's perspective, his emotional state, his commuication skills and where he's coming from at the same time.
When you do this with a man, you are subconsciously telling him that you're more interested in your feelings and what YOU want than you are in his feelings and what he wants.
And men can read and pick up on women who do this instantly.
I see a form of this “Big Mistake” communication all the time in business by the way.
Some business professionals are the worst at this self-absorbed “need” oriented communication.
Like when someone calls me who wants to get something from me or sell me something and they're not very experienced or polished at it.
The first thing I pick up on is their selfish agenda... and it instantly puts me on the defensive.
But if they've done their “homework” on me and what I'm looking for, and not what THEY WANT from me, when they talk it changes the whole situation the second they show me they've thought about what I want.
It's very simple but extremely powerful.
So let's take this concept directly back to communicating with men.
It might sound cliche', but you've got to learn to listen and understand where's he's at and where's he's coming from.
This cliche' is a around for a reason.
It works.
Patience, empathy and understanding are the first steps towards creating the relationship you dream about.
But you've got to be careful to not become the woman who gives him EVERYTHING and gets walked on.
Use your common sense and intuition to safeguard yourself - I know that your female perceptive abilities aren't used nearly enough, so put these strong tools to good use.
Step 3) How To Avoid Making The Big Mistake
Let me give you a vital piece of information when dealing with men...
Men are CLUELESS when it comes to identifying the things that are “obvious” to women in dating and relationships.
I would know. It's taken me ten years to begin to understand these things for myself - and I spend a LOT of time thinking about it.
Sorry though, I'm “spoken for”... (Oh Please, get over yourself Christian!!)
Ok, enough self-indulgent humor, back to you.
So we know men are AWFUL at initiating and participating in conversations about deep emotions and relationships.
Sorry to break the bad news, but it's almost always up to you to make this communication happen.
It's important to remember to approach the entire conversation from the perspective of talking about what you want AND what he wants.
If you can make a guy feel like you put his feelings and needs a priority in this conversation, and always consider what he wants, I promise he will LOVE YOU for it!
There's no rule that says you can't consider another persons opinions and feelings first in order to get what you want.
In fact, a key goal in negotiating is to let the other person talk first.
When you get to listen first, you ALWAYS have the advantage. You know exactly what the other person wants... and knowledge is influence and power.
I'm not saying you need to take on hard-core negotiating here with a man, but some of the same rules and principles about people and psychology apply.
When you talk to a man from a positive place of listening first, he will be 10,000 times more receptive to what you have to say and what you want once you bring it up than if you approach him from a place of feeling hurt, communicate need and projecting fear and anxiety.
Try this instead.
Ask a positive question or give a positive statement such as, “Honey, I was thinking today that I was happy to be with you.”
It might sound submissive, corny or difficult to say to someone you're having a tough time with, but think about it...
If you're going through all the trouble to worry so much about the future with this person, this is already what you're thinking.
You might want to check out what could be the world's best collection of ideas, strategies, insights and research on the subject of how to avoid the Big Mistakes, and other big mistakes in my ebook, “Catch Him And Keep Him”.
It's full off specific ways to communicate with a man that will instantly amplify the attraction he feels for you and help move things quickly and smoothly from “casual” to “committed” in no time flat.
I've spent the better part of the last year making sure my ebook will give you REAL WORLD ANSWERS and solutions to the things you're dealing with when it comes to men.
Go check it out right now:
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Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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May 2008 Love Horoscopes
By Vanessa Calderon. Seventh Sense Astrology
Your Romance and Partnership Horoscopes for May 2008
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
You have allies this month, Aries, and they are people you can learn from. And they probably have lots of resources to share with you. And they are probably in some positions of power. If you can hold back on any confrontational urges that you feel this month, you have the opportunity to forge some strong alliances. Your partners are thinking about money, and if you don’t have a partner, go out and take a finance course or something because you may just meet some really attractive people there in the first half of the month. The focus will shift to a party mood by mid-month, and you can be as social as you please, but do not neglect your work or there will be consequences. Talk it up and initiate conversations if you want to see sparks fly!
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
At this time of year, when the sun is in your sign, people tend to go out and spend more money. Whether they are just hitting the hottest nightspots or purchasing homes, it is definitely a time of the year when people are prone to excess. You are no exception during the first half of the month. You’ll be in a downright jolly mood, but don’t go overboard on food and drink. That said, your best places to meet people who share your values are at home in the first half of the month, so throw a party or a bbq and ask friends to bring friends you don’t already know. Chances are you know someone who knows someone who wants to settle down, or at least wants a nice, even-tempered partner to hang out with. If that doesn’t work, go forward with sprucing up your living space, because you could meet someone interesting at a nursery or in an interior design store.
GEMINI (May21-June21)
You might not be thinking about relationships as your first priority during the first half of the month, because you have other important things to take care of. Everything goes back to normal in the second half in the month when Mars gives you the green light to get out and be a social butterfly again. You won’t need to go far, and you might find love this month in your own neighborhood. In fact, you might find love in a place or with a person you never considered before. Mercury is in your sign all month and Venus will enter your sign in the second half of May All of this is helpful when you want to meet people who are as quick-witted and mentally agile as you are. If they can’t keep up with you and they don’t value good conversation, they just don’t measure up.
CANCER (June 22-July 23)
The ruler of your house of romance is angling in a way that could bring a disciplined, hard worker into your life. You are also attracted to older people this month, mostly because the, “old soul” in you comes out into the open. The second half of the month lightens up a bit and you find that you need someone who likes to have fun. You are ready to go out and spend money on frivolous pursuits with friends in the first half of the month, and that is fine to do once in a while. Keep an eye on your wallet though, just in case someone you don’t know very well inadvertently (or advertently) tried to take advantage of your generosity and jovial spirit.
LEO (July 23- Aug 22)
If you have been in a shell lately, Leo, you are bound to bust out of it by the middle of May. Caution turns into confident action. You have a lot to offer this world. Venus and Mars are telling you to get moving in the right direction career-wise, and in relation to self-improvement. You’ll have lots to celebrate and lots of fun is in the starts for the end of the month, when impromptu meetings with friends, and casual gatherings are on your calendar. Some ongoing responsibilities that you have been dealing with for a long time should be more manageable in May, which is a welcome break for you. You seem to attract news about financial arrangements this month as the people around you begin to shift their assets around. You are likely to receive some friendly advice. Grit your teeth and say thank you even if you don’t think it is good advice.
VIRGO (Aug 23- Sept 22)
Friends and romantic interests clash, or you think one of your friends is attractive in the beginning of the month. You had better think very carefully before making a move or saying anything that might ruffle feathers in this situation! People related to law enforcement and education are attracted to you now. Go where those types of people hang out if you want to meet someone unique. A secret you have been keeping could become public news, and it is most likely relationship related. This shouldn’t happen until the second half of the month, so use caution until then to prevent slip-ups. Also use caution when you give friendly advice. It might be taken the wrong way and it might touch a really sore nerve.
LIBRA (Sept 23- Oct 23)
The focus is on home and work during the first half of the month, and then it shifts to meeting new individuals and groups of people in the second half of the month. Most of the month has you handling joint finances. You are going to have an opportunity to travel toward a place that has a different social climate in May. You could meet someone who is in accounting or in some other financial career, and they will help you out in some way. Your experiences this month will have you thinking about learning something new by the last week of May. Go to places where you would learn something along with a large group of other people if you are in the mood to meet someone you have a lot in common with.
SCORPIO (Oct 24- Nov 21)
You are primed for some sort of advancement in your career or a hobby you love could become lucrative for you if you talk to the right people. Attractive people are willing to partner with you this month for many reasons. You will have to remember that some relationships that hit you like lightening go away just as quickly as they appeared, and that not every potential partner becomes one who will stick around. The sun and Venus in your marriage house may have you thinking about commitment. People who are working in the same or a similar field as you, or people you meet though work, are great for hooking up with this month. Just be sure to use good judgment and only get involved with people you know want the same thing out of a relationship as you do. You don’t want to end up regretting a poorly thought-out or impulsive office romance (or any potential romance, for that matter).
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22- Dec 21)
Sagittarians might want to keep their eyes open for attractive people who work in the health, and animal-related fields. Not all of your potential partners would live near by. You can make a great connection on the web, possibly with someone who you thought of as only a casual acquaintance before May began. If you have already started talking to someone new and think that you are compatible, you are right, but take it slow. This is a very changeable month for you and you will probably meet several new people whose company you enjoy. You will also probably meet someone who talks a lot. That’s ok, because you like the person, you find him or her amusing, and you value what he or she has to say. Talkative people and people who can give you advice about your financial status are good bets for now.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22- Jan 19)
You will assert yourself and share your opinions on some very heavy topics this month, Cap. Romantic prospects and new acquaintances enjoy your openness, your attention to detail, your honesty, and your unique brand of Capricornian humor (which is usually sarcastic and dry). You are in the mood for fun and frolic, with Venus dancing through your house of romance and games, and Jupiter playing along. Don’t go overboard, though. Spending just the right amount on games of chance and involvement in speculative ventures requires discipline. All partners, whether they be financial or romantic ones, have strong opinions. They say they are only looking out for your own good, and they really are. Don’t take anything they say to heart.
AQUARIUS (Jan 20- Feb 20)
Relationships take on deeper meaning this month. You may even fall in love, or fall in love all over again. Is it possible that you are growing roots? Maybe you think about it, but only time will tell if you are really one to settle down and stay there. Lively conversation can turn into much more than that, especially with someone you like to spar with. You are being asked to take initiative in all types of relationship matters this month.
If you have time on your hands, look around your home to see what things of value you have. You will keep some, but some can net you a little pocket change. By the end of this month you will be the center of people’s attention, as well as attractive and in-demand.
PISCES (Feb 21- March 20)
You are going to crave flexibility in May, Pisces. You usually take lots of responsibility on for others (especially emotionally), but you’ll be thinking about changing the landscape a little. Travel would do you good, and your trip does not have to be long on time and distance. You can try out the butterfly suit for a while and go social on the local scene. Your best places you can go to see sparks fly: anywhere you would enjoy wildlife, and anywhere you can use your compassion to help others. Whether it be among a group of people with whom you start working toward a common goal, or among people who are lending you a hand, relationships will be fruitful this month. At the very end of the month, you feel like curling up at home with someone special.
Your Romance and Partnership Horoscopes for May 2008
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
You have allies this month, Aries, and they are people you can learn from. And they probably have lots of resources to share with you. And they are probably in some positions of power. If you can hold back on any confrontational urges that you feel this month, you have the opportunity to forge some strong alliances. Your partners are thinking about money, and if you don’t have a partner, go out and take a finance course or something because you may just meet some really attractive people there in the first half of the month. The focus will shift to a party mood by mid-month, and you can be as social as you please, but do not neglect your work or there will be consequences. Talk it up and initiate conversations if you want to see sparks fly!
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
At this time of year, when the sun is in your sign, people tend to go out and spend more money. Whether they are just hitting the hottest nightspots or purchasing homes, it is definitely a time of the year when people are prone to excess. You are no exception during the first half of the month. You’ll be in a downright jolly mood, but don’t go overboard on food and drink. That said, your best places to meet people who share your values are at home in the first half of the month, so throw a party or a bbq and ask friends to bring friends you don’t already know. Chances are you know someone who knows someone who wants to settle down, or at least wants a nice, even-tempered partner to hang out with. If that doesn’t work, go forward with sprucing up your living space, because you could meet someone interesting at a nursery or in an interior design store.
GEMINI (May21-June21)
You might not be thinking about relationships as your first priority during the first half of the month, because you have other important things to take care of. Everything goes back to normal in the second half in the month when Mars gives you the green light to get out and be a social butterfly again. You won’t need to go far, and you might find love this month in your own neighborhood. In fact, you might find love in a place or with a person you never considered before. Mercury is in your sign all month and Venus will enter your sign in the second half of May All of this is helpful when you want to meet people who are as quick-witted and mentally agile as you are. If they can’t keep up with you and they don’t value good conversation, they just don’t measure up.
CANCER (June 22-July 23)
The ruler of your house of romance is angling in a way that could bring a disciplined, hard worker into your life. You are also attracted to older people this month, mostly because the, “old soul” in you comes out into the open. The second half of the month lightens up a bit and you find that you need someone who likes to have fun. You are ready to go out and spend money on frivolous pursuits with friends in the first half of the month, and that is fine to do once in a while. Keep an eye on your wallet though, just in case someone you don’t know very well inadvertently (or advertently) tried to take advantage of your generosity and jovial spirit.
LEO (July 23- Aug 22)
If you have been in a shell lately, Leo, you are bound to bust out of it by the middle of May. Caution turns into confident action. You have a lot to offer this world. Venus and Mars are telling you to get moving in the right direction career-wise, and in relation to self-improvement. You’ll have lots to celebrate and lots of fun is in the starts for the end of the month, when impromptu meetings with friends, and casual gatherings are on your calendar. Some ongoing responsibilities that you have been dealing with for a long time should be more manageable in May, which is a welcome break for you. You seem to attract news about financial arrangements this month as the people around you begin to shift their assets around. You are likely to receive some friendly advice. Grit your teeth and say thank you even if you don’t think it is good advice.
VIRGO (Aug 23- Sept 22)
Friends and romantic interests clash, or you think one of your friends is attractive in the beginning of the month. You had better think very carefully before making a move or saying anything that might ruffle feathers in this situation! People related to law enforcement and education are attracted to you now. Go where those types of people hang out if you want to meet someone unique. A secret you have been keeping could become public news, and it is most likely relationship related. This shouldn’t happen until the second half of the month, so use caution until then to prevent slip-ups. Also use caution when you give friendly advice. It might be taken the wrong way and it might touch a really sore nerve.
LIBRA (Sept 23- Oct 23)
The focus is on home and work during the first half of the month, and then it shifts to meeting new individuals and groups of people in the second half of the month. Most of the month has you handling joint finances. You are going to have an opportunity to travel toward a place that has a different social climate in May. You could meet someone who is in accounting or in some other financial career, and they will help you out in some way. Your experiences this month will have you thinking about learning something new by the last week of May. Go to places where you would learn something along with a large group of other people if you are in the mood to meet someone you have a lot in common with.
SCORPIO (Oct 24- Nov 21)
You are primed for some sort of advancement in your career or a hobby you love could become lucrative for you if you talk to the right people. Attractive people are willing to partner with you this month for many reasons. You will have to remember that some relationships that hit you like lightening go away just as quickly as they appeared, and that not every potential partner becomes one who will stick around. The sun and Venus in your marriage house may have you thinking about commitment. People who are working in the same or a similar field as you, or people you meet though work, are great for hooking up with this month. Just be sure to use good judgment and only get involved with people you know want the same thing out of a relationship as you do. You don’t want to end up regretting a poorly thought-out or impulsive office romance (or any potential romance, for that matter).
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22- Dec 21)
Sagittarians might want to keep their eyes open for attractive people who work in the health, and animal-related fields. Not all of your potential partners would live near by. You can make a great connection on the web, possibly with someone who you thought of as only a casual acquaintance before May began. If you have already started talking to someone new and think that you are compatible, you are right, but take it slow. This is a very changeable month for you and you will probably meet several new people whose company you enjoy. You will also probably meet someone who talks a lot. That’s ok, because you like the person, you find him or her amusing, and you value what he or she has to say. Talkative people and people who can give you advice about your financial status are good bets for now.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22- Jan 19)
You will assert yourself and share your opinions on some very heavy topics this month, Cap. Romantic prospects and new acquaintances enjoy your openness, your attention to detail, your honesty, and your unique brand of Capricornian humor (which is usually sarcastic and dry). You are in the mood for fun and frolic, with Venus dancing through your house of romance and games, and Jupiter playing along. Don’t go overboard, though. Spending just the right amount on games of chance and involvement in speculative ventures requires discipline. All partners, whether they be financial or romantic ones, have strong opinions. They say they are only looking out for your own good, and they really are. Don’t take anything they say to heart.
AQUARIUS (Jan 20- Feb 20)
Relationships take on deeper meaning this month. You may even fall in love, or fall in love all over again. Is it possible that you are growing roots? Maybe you think about it, but only time will tell if you are really one to settle down and stay there. Lively conversation can turn into much more than that, especially with someone you like to spar with. You are being asked to take initiative in all types of relationship matters this month.
If you have time on your hands, look around your home to see what things of value you have. You will keep some, but some can net you a little pocket change. By the end of this month you will be the center of people’s attention, as well as attractive and in-demand.
PISCES (Feb 21- March 20)
You are going to crave flexibility in May, Pisces. You usually take lots of responsibility on for others (especially emotionally), but you’ll be thinking about changing the landscape a little. Travel would do you good, and your trip does not have to be long on time and distance. You can try out the butterfly suit for a while and go social on the local scene. Your best places you can go to see sparks fly: anywhere you would enjoy wildlife, and anywhere you can use your compassion to help others. Whether it be among a group of people with whom you start working toward a common goal, or among people who are lending you a hand, relationships will be fruitful this month. At the very end of the month, you feel like curling up at home with someone special.
Monday, April 21, 2008
Guys that get manicures and pedicures
I was meeting a a friend at Governors Comedy Club last week and arrived a little early. I walked over to bar area and overheard this guy complaining to the bartender about how he was unhappy with the service he received at at xyz company. The bartender seemed to agree with him entirely. So what was he unhappy about? XYZ was an Asian nail salon and the guy got a manicure and pedicure. He was unhappy that they only used one coat of clear polish instead of two.
More and more I hear about the "Metrosexual man" and would like to know what the ladies think about this. Is it a turn on or turn off?
More and more I hear about the "Metrosexual man" and would like to know what the ladies think about this. Is it a turn on or turn off?
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Identity theft
This section usually would usually have an article or something relating to singles/dating, but I am going to discuss an unrelated serious topic, Identity theft.
A gal I am friendly with recently had her identify stolen by a Nigerian fraud ring and is going through he** trying to get her name back. Apparently her computer was hacked and a fraudster was able to take control remotely. Some type of virius was downloaded without her knowledge and a keystroke recorder was installed. The fraudster got hold of her id and passwords for her bank accounts online and other personal information. So now, she is trying to get her name back.
So what are some things you can do to protect yourself?
- Anti-Virus protection: Seems pretty obvious, but some of you reading this right now do not have any type of anti-virus protection. GET SOME
- Passwords: Dont use your Social Security Number or make all of your passwords the same for different services.
- Using your credit card online: Make sure the site you are checking out from has a little lock in the right hand corner. This will indicate that you are checking out through a secure server. Some sites do not have the lock, but you can tell that you are checking out through a secure server because the http turns to https (look at your internet browser line).
- Get an identity protection service. I personally use LifeLock (see link above), but there are many other services out there all that cost about the same, (about $10 a month). Basically they set alerts on your credit file with the major bureaus and you are notified if any type of new account attempt is opened. It can also be a pain in the ass sometimes, but the tradeoff is worth it.
The building I live in recently became wired for Verizon Fios, so I called to set up an account. They took all my vitals including my social security number (they run your credit before issuing you an account) and I set up an installation appointment for a few days later. The next day I got a call from Verizon who said they could not process my order because there was a flag on my account and in order to get the service, I had to fax over two forms of identity. I never got around to sending in the proof of identity, so my order was cancelled. I will get around to it again eventually , and although having to jump through an additional hoop is a pain, it is worth it.
If you do decide to use LifeLock, either click the banner above or use the discount code FaceToFace and you will save 10% on the listed rates.
Monday, April 14, 2008
I like the other gal
Dear Jay:
I had attended one of your single mingle events a few months back and have a dilemma. I was chatting with Sarah at the event and she took my number. She was nice and all, but I was really much more interested in her girlfriend Margaret, who also had attended the event.
Margaret let me know that she was also interested, but could not pursue anything with me because I had already given my number to Sarah. What should I do? I had just met them that night, so it is not like I was dating either of them, but I really would like to get to know Margaret better. Perhaps one of your readers has some advice.
Thanks
Bill
Hmm, this sounds like the episode from Seinfeld called "the switch." Any real life George Costanza's out there who can give some advice here? Please post your comments in the blog
I had attended one of your single mingle events a few months back and have a dilemma. I was chatting with Sarah at the event and she took my number. She was nice and all, but I was really much more interested in her girlfriend Margaret, who also had attended the event.
Margaret let me know that she was also interested, but could not pursue anything with me because I had already given my number to Sarah. What should I do? I had just met them that night, so it is not like I was dating either of them, but I really would like to get to know Margaret better. Perhaps one of your readers has some advice.
Thanks
Bill
Hmm, this sounds like the episode from Seinfeld called "the switch." Any real life George Costanza's out there who can give some advice here? Please post your comments in the blog
Thursday, April 10, 2008
What to ask at a speed dating event
So what can you really know about someone in 5 minutes? Plenty, if you ask the right questions. Remember, your goal is to help determine who you would potentially like to get to know better. Consider it a screening process to help you set up future dates. I also suggest throwing in some deal breaker questions that are important to you.
- What are you most passionate about? This will really help give you an idea about the person's interest and personality. Are they an avid boater, love to cook, are a thrill seeker? This is a much better question than "what do you like to do for fun?" which will result in many of the same old answers.
*What are your all time favorite movies? Again, this may help give you a sense about what makes this person tick. Are they a romantic at heart and tell you a movie like Titanic, a slapstick type who answers with Jim Carey films, into old time classics like Casablanca? This is a better question then "what kind of movies do you like?"
*What radio stations are preset on your car stereo? or Who is your favorite musician? This may give you some insight at to whether you have similar tastes in music.
*Do you have pets? like pets? I am in the minority as far as guys go, in that I like cats, and have two little monsters that keep me up at night. If I ask this question and get a response that "I am deathly allergic to cats", then I know this woman is not right for me. If pets are an important issue to you, then ask this question.
*Are you a smoker? This is another good deal breaker question. I hate cigarette smoke and owe it all to the first gal I ever kissed, Sue. I was a late bloomer and my first kiss happened when I was 17 years old at Taco Bell in Franklin Square. It put such a nasty taste in my mouth that I never picked up a cigarette and would not want to date someone who smokes (unless they were seriously trying to quit). I also lost some family members to lung cancer so this is a dealbreaker for me. If smoking habits are important to you, then ask about it.
*Do you have kids/want kids? Maybe you do not want to date someone who has kids? If so, you can ask whether the person has any children. A better question may be "tell me about your family?" If the person responds and talks about their kids, then you get the information you need.
Sunday, April 06, 2008
Date Guide: Where to go on a date
Where to go on a date?- Restaurant/Activity Resource Guide
*Nassau County Restaurants
*Nassau County-Not restaurant
*Suffolk County Restaurants
*Suffolk County- Not restaurant
*Queens County Restaurants
*Queens County-Not restaurants
*Manhattan Restaurants
*Manhattan- Not restaurants
*Brooklyn Restaurants
*Brooklyn- Not restaurant
*Bronx and Westchester Restaurants
*Bronx and Westchester- Not restaurants
*Staten Island and New Jersey Restaurants
*Staten Island and New Jersey- Not restaurants
*Nassau County Restaurants
*Nassau County-Not restaurant
*Suffolk County Restaurants
*Suffolk County- Not restaurant
*Queens County Restaurants
*Queens County-Not restaurants
*Manhattan Restaurants
*Manhattan- Not restaurants
*Brooklyn Restaurants
*Brooklyn- Not restaurant
*Bronx and Westchester Restaurants
*Bronx and Westchester- Not restaurants
*Staten Island and New Jersey Restaurants
*Staten Island and New Jersey- Not restaurants
Date Ideas: Staten Island and New Jersey (not restaurants)
Have an idea for a New Jersey great date place that is not a restaurant. Share it here!
Date Ideas: Bronx and Westchester (not restaurants)
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Date Ideas: Brooklyn- Not resturants
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Date Ideas: Manhattan (not restaurants)
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Date Ideas: Queens County (not restaurant)
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Date Ideas; Suffolk County (not restaurants)
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Date Ideas; Nassau County (not restaurants)
Brokerage Comedy Club
2797 Merrick Rd Bellmore, NY
(516) 781-LAFF
Website
Comedy Club
User comment: Always a great place to go on a first date! The food is fantastic too..
Promotion:
Dave & Busters
1504 Old Country Rd Westbury, NY(516) 542-8501
Website
RestaurantVideo GamesBilliardsBowling
User comment: There is just so much to do at Dave and Busters. Nice place to go on a date, but the cost can sneak up on you pretty quickly.
2797 Merrick Rd Bellmore, NY
(516) 781-LAFF
Website
Comedy Club
User comment: Always a great place to go on a first date! The food is fantastic too..
Promotion:
Dave & Busters
1504 Old Country Rd Westbury, NY(516) 542-8501
Website
RestaurantVideo GamesBilliardsBowling
User comment: There is just so much to do at Dave and Busters. Nice place to go on a date, but the cost can sneak up on you pretty quickly.
Date Ideas: Staten Island and New Jersey Restaurants
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Date Ideas: Bronx & Westchester Restaurants
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Date Ideas: Brooklyn Restaurants
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Date Ideas: Manhattan Restaurants
Asia de Cuba at Morgans
237 Madison AvenueNew York, NY (212) 726-7755
Website Menu
Asian & Cuban
User comment:
Real eclectic decor - great music- lively -
Wonderful combo of Asian & Cuban food- Must have reservation- Always packed after work-
Fleur de Sel
5 East 20th StreetNew York, New York (212) 460-9100
Website Menu
French
User comment: This is my favorite restaurant. It is exquisite food, great service , quiet, classy ambiance. Every course is an experience - on the way out, they handed us a little bag with cookies - It was quite memorable-You don't feel rushed at all- need reservation-
Iguana
240 W 54th St, New York, New York (212) 765-5454
Website Menu
Mexican, Southwestern
User comment: It has a very nice ambiance and very spacious. Its conveniently located midtown Specialized in Mexican/Spanish. Amazing Margaritas and Mojitis too. If you feel adventurous, there is dancing downstairs, but only on certain nights. You can check out the menu on menupages .com. I Highly recommend the frozen Apple Martini and the chicken taquitos, and the Steak salad.
Puttanesca
859 9th Ave
New York, New York@ 56th Street
(212) 581-4177
Website Menu
Italian
User comment: Very nice atmosphere and very good reasonably priced food. Very friendly and attentive waiters. In my experience less hectic on Sat. night than Friday.
Zanzibar
645 9th AveNew York, New York@ 45th Street 212-957-9197
Website Menu
Mediterranean
User comment: Very cool lounge atmosphere, most seating is for (2),great appetizers and cocktails..Gets lively at night (after 10). People kind of dance to the music even though there is no dance floor, but still fun! I had several fun dates here.
237 Madison AvenueNew York, NY (212) 726-7755
Website Menu
Asian & Cuban
User comment:
Real eclectic decor - great music- lively -
Wonderful combo of Asian & Cuban food- Must have reservation- Always packed after work-
Fleur de Sel
5 East 20th StreetNew York, New York (212) 460-9100
Website Menu
French
User comment: This is my favorite restaurant. It is exquisite food, great service , quiet, classy ambiance. Every course is an experience - on the way out, they handed us a little bag with cookies - It was quite memorable-You don't feel rushed at all- need reservation-
Iguana
240 W 54th St, New York, New York (212) 765-5454
Website Menu
Mexican, Southwestern
User comment: It has a very nice ambiance and very spacious. Its conveniently located midtown Specialized in Mexican/Spanish. Amazing Margaritas and Mojitis too. If you feel adventurous, there is dancing downstairs, but only on certain nights. You can check out the menu on menupages .com. I Highly recommend the frozen Apple Martini and the chicken taquitos, and the Steak salad.
Puttanesca
859 9th Ave
New York, New York@ 56th Street
(212) 581-4177
Website Menu
Italian
User comment: Very nice atmosphere and very good reasonably priced food. Very friendly and attentive waiters. In my experience less hectic on Sat. night than Friday.
Zanzibar
645 9th AveNew York, New York@ 45th Street 212-957-9197
Website Menu
Mediterranean
User comment: Very cool lounge atmosphere, most seating is for (2),great appetizers and cocktails..Gets lively at night (after 10). People kind of dance to the music even though there is no dance floor, but still fun! I had several fun dates here.
Date Ideas: Queens County Restaurants
Sly Fox Inn
177-23 Union TkpeFlushing NY 11366
(718) 969-8169Website
American Contemporary
User comment: Sly Fox has a great deal on a comedy show and dinner for a fixed price. The food was delicious and both me and my date had a great time. It is more of a comfortable relaxed environment in the restaurant. They also have another section where it is more of a bar with booths, tables and tv screens. After dinner we stayed for the dancing.
Irish Cottage
Irish Cottage
10807 72nd Ave Forest Hills, NY
(718) 268-1329
Irish
User comment: They are located between QB and Austin ST. They are small and don't have a website and are not listed on menupages. Think typical Irish pub cuisine and great salads, and the best homemade unsweetened ices tea.. Its a very cute, quaint country atmosphere, with nice quiet tables where you can talk and hear each other, and pretty decent food/bar. Staff is authentic Irish and very friendly as well. They have Irish coffee and dessert too. Good for a nice lunch as well.
Jade
1 Station SquareForest Hills NY (718) 793-2203
Website
Asian
User comment: Jade is new and trendy has good Asian Fusion food, but a little pricey. It really has a Man. lounge scene feel and is spacious-good music too.. The bar is pretty hopping as well, but not so loud that you can't hear each other and there is a small dance floor that opens up later in the evening. They have lots of free shot tasting's and drink specials too. Check it out. You really do forget you are in Queens. They don't appear to have a web site and not listed on menu pages, but I have the menu and can vouch for the food
Date Ideas: Suffolk County Restaurants
Bliss
766 Route 25aEast Setauket, NY
631.941.0430
Website
American
User comment:
Bliss in Setauket is a very nice restaurant. Located on Rt 25a, just east of Nicolls Rd. A little pricey, but quiet, romantic setting & the staff are very helpful. If you just want drinks the bar has a separate Tapas/appetizer menu not available in the dining room.
Tommy's Place
42 Broadway
Rocky Point, NY (631) 209-1900
Website
American
User comment:
Tommy's Place in both Port Jefferson & Rocky Point. Casual place for dinner, inexpensive. You can order appetizers at the bar if you choose. He usually has music at the Rocky Point location on Friday nights. I believe in Port Jefferson music is outside only during the summer months. It is more of a pub/bar feel.
Bistro Cassis
55 Wall Street
Huntington, NY(631) 421 4122
Website
French
User comment:
They just opened another branch in Plainview- South Oyster Road and Woodbury Rd-
Great food- very french atmosphere- Service with a smile. You would try anything on the menu and you can't go wrong.
766 Route 25aEast Setauket, NY
631.941.0430
Website
American
User comment:
Bliss in Setauket is a very nice restaurant. Located on Rt 25a, just east of Nicolls Rd. A little pricey, but quiet, romantic setting & the staff are very helpful. If you just want drinks the bar has a separate Tapas/appetizer menu not available in the dining room.
Tommy's Place
42 Broadway
Rocky Point, NY (631) 209-1900
Website
American
User comment:
Tommy's Place in both Port Jefferson & Rocky Point. Casual place for dinner, inexpensive. You can order appetizers at the bar if you choose. He usually has music at the Rocky Point location on Friday nights. I believe in Port Jefferson music is outside only during the summer months. It is more of a pub/bar feel.
Bistro Cassis
55 Wall Street
Huntington, NY(631) 421 4122
Website
French
User comment:
They just opened another branch in Plainview- South Oyster Road and Woodbury Rd-
Great food- very french atmosphere- Service with a smile. You would try anything on the menu and you can't go wrong.
Date Ideas- Nassau County Restaurants
Hemingway's
1885 Wantagh Ave Wantagh, NY 11793
(516) 781-2700
Website
American Contemporary
User comment: A good restaurant to go to on a date is Hemingway's on Wantagh Ave in Wantagh - just north of the LIRR station. It is a casual & comfortable restaurant, reasonably priced. It has been there for years. They have a nice long mahogany bar for an after dinner drink. On a Saturday night you will find mostly couples at the bar, so you don't feel like you are on a date in the middle of the singles scene. It usually gets a pretty good crowd, so I would recommend doing dinner there around 8pm. Waitstaff/bartenders are all very friendly.
The Melting Pot
2377 Broadhollow Rd. (Route 110)Farmingdale, NY 11735
(631) 752-4242
Website
Fondue
User comment:This place was a lot of fun. It was very interactive and made for a very memorable first date.
Ayhans
1504 Old Country RoadWestbury NY, 11590(516) 222-8000
Website
Other locations in PortWashington, Baldwin,Plainview and Rockville Centre
Mediterranean
User comment:
I recommend Ayans Shis-kabab restaurant. They have a number of restaurants on Long Island. The atmosphere is nice, food is good and reasonably priced.
Stresa East
7940 Jericho TkpeWoodbury, NY (516) 364-1565
Website
Other location in Manhasset
Italian
User comment: Quiet - Classy - you can chose any quiet corner - you will not be disturbed except to be served- Service with a smile- For lunch, try the Grilled Shrimp Salad with a fine glass of chardonnay-
Simply Thai
274 Merrick RdRockville Centre NY 516-255-9340
Thai
User comment:
If two people are into Thai food, I highly recommend Simply Thai on the corner of Merrick Road and Park Avenue in Rockville Centre. This restaurant has the best Thai food on Long Island. The food is fresh and delicious and the wait staff is very friendly. Try a Thai Iced tea.
Sagamore Steak House
650 Jericho TurnpikeSyosset, NY 11791516-496-8000
Website
Steak
User comment:
Hey Jay- I love Sagamore Steakhouse in Syosset.. The atmosphere is very nice and the food is excellent. It is a little pricey but well worth it.
1885 Wantagh Ave Wantagh, NY 11793
(516) 781-2700
Website
American Contemporary
User comment: A good restaurant to go to on a date is Hemingway's on Wantagh Ave in Wantagh - just north of the LIRR station. It is a casual & comfortable restaurant, reasonably priced. It has been there for years. They have a nice long mahogany bar for an after dinner drink. On a Saturday night you will find mostly couples at the bar, so you don't feel like you are on a date in the middle of the singles scene. It usually gets a pretty good crowd, so I would recommend doing dinner there around 8pm. Waitstaff/bartenders are all very friendly.
The Melting Pot
2377 Broadhollow Rd. (Route 110)Farmingdale, NY 11735
(631) 752-4242
Website
Fondue
User comment:This place was a lot of fun. It was very interactive and made for a very memorable first date.
Ayhans
1504 Old Country RoadWestbury NY, 11590(516) 222-8000
Website
Other locations in PortWashington, Baldwin,Plainview and Rockville Centre
Mediterranean
User comment:
I recommend Ayans Shis-kabab restaurant. They have a number of restaurants on Long Island. The atmosphere is nice, food is good and reasonably priced.
Stresa East
7940 Jericho TkpeWoodbury, NY (516) 364-1565
Website
Other location in Manhasset
Italian
User comment: Quiet - Classy - you can chose any quiet corner - you will not be disturbed except to be served- Service with a smile- For lunch, try the Grilled Shrimp Salad with a fine glass of chardonnay-
Simply Thai
274 Merrick RdRockville Centre NY 516-255-9340
Thai
User comment:
If two people are into Thai food, I highly recommend Simply Thai on the corner of Merrick Road and Park Avenue in Rockville Centre. This restaurant has the best Thai food on Long Island. The food is fresh and delicious and the wait staff is very friendly. Try a Thai Iced tea.
Sagamore Steak House
650 Jericho TurnpikeSyosset, NY 11791516-496-8000
Website
Steak
User comment:
Hey Jay- I love Sagamore Steakhouse in Syosset.. The atmosphere is very nice and the food is excellent. It is a little pricey but well worth it.
Tuesday, April 01, 2008
Separated vs. Divorced- Policy issue
Occasionally, I will get a call from someone who is separated and going through a divorce. They will ask if it is ok for them to attend a WeekendDating.com speed dating or singles event. My answer has been that if the divorce process is in the works and their is NO chance that they are going to get back with the soon to be ex-spouse, then it would be ok for them to attend as long as they are honest with the people they meet at the singles event. If they are not sure if they will get back with the ex and are temporarily separated, then it is NOT appropriate for them to attend a singles event.
At a recent event, a participant was not happy when they found out that one of the other participants was separated and not divorced. They felt that someone in the process of a divorce was not mentally ready to move on and be open to a new committed relationship since much of the focus would still be on trying to tie up the loose ends with the soon to be ex. They asked that separated people not be allowed to participate in any future events.
At a recent event, a participant was not happy when they found out that one of the other participants was separated and not divorced. They felt that someone in the process of a divorce was not mentally ready to move on and be open to a new committed relationship since much of the focus would still be on trying to tie up the loose ends with the soon to be ex. They asked that separated people not be allowed to participate in any future events.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Ugly Men and Hot Women
The New York Daily News published an article today, March 26th that describes a study that found women who marry uglier men then themselves, have a happier marriage. The study came from the Journal of Family Psychology and was based on interviews with 82 newlywed couples.
Both spouses tended to behave more positively when wives were more attractive than their husbands and more negatively when husbands were more attractive than their wives," said the study by UCLA.
The study found that physical attraction for long term compatablilty was much more important to men than women.
"Physical attractiveness is not as important to women, in contrast, relative attractiveness may only affect them through its effect on their husbands," the study says.
The full article can be found at http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/2008/03/26/2008-03-26_when_shes_hot__hes_not_theres_better_sho.html
Both spouses tended to behave more positively when wives were more attractive than their husbands and more negatively when husbands were more attractive than their wives," said the study by UCLA.
The study found that physical attraction for long term compatablilty was much more important to men than women.
"Physical attractiveness is not as important to women, in contrast, relative attractiveness may only affect them through its effect on their husbands," the study says.
The full article can be found at http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/2008/03/26/2008-03-26_when_shes_hot__hes_not_theres_better_sho.html
Sunday, March 23, 2008
The Pickup Artist-Season 2
The Mystery Is Back! And Looking For You! Impossible Casting Is Now Casting The Pickup Artist Season 2!
*Are You A Quirky But Likable Guy Who Has Trouble Picking Up Women?
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You Will Then Be Sent An Application To Be Completed Before
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Tuesday, March 18, 2008
What women look for in a man
What is one of the most important personality traits a woman looks for in a man?
If you ask a woman what she wants in a man or read online personal ads, you will see that many women want a man who can make them laugh. What if you lack the confidence in this area or just want to improve your skills? Can you learn to be funny?
Actually you can!
Stand-Up University starts on Tuesday, April 8th and runs for seven consecutive Tuesdays at the Brokerage Comedy Club in Bellmore.
So even if you do not want to be a stand up comedian, the skills learned can be life changing and greatly improve your self confidence..
Mention Weekenddating.com and get 10% off the registration price. Visit Stand-Up University and call Steve Lazarus at (718) 229-1151 for more details.
Ladies are more than welcome to take the class as well.
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Ut oh, he is married
I was talking to a female friend recently who seemed pretty upset. I had already got stuck in the "friend zone" with her, so she felt comfortable enough tell me how much she liked this guy, thought about him all the time, yada yada yada, but recently found out he was married and had a child. He told her that he was planning on getting a divorce and that he liked her a lot and wanted to continue seeing her.
Any advice for my friend? Let her know in the blog.
Any advice for my friend? Let her know in the blog.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Monday, March 10, 2008
Jones Beach Concert Series
Interested in any of the bands playing at Jones Beach this summer? Let me know and I will try to organize an event for a group of singles to attend together.
Artist
True Colors Tour
Sunday, June 1
Eric Clapton
Thursday, June 5
REM
Saturday, June 14
James Taylor
Saturday, June 21
Doobie Brothers and Chicago
Friday,June 27
Steve Miller
Friday, July 11
Rush
Monday, July 14
The Police
w/ Elvis Costello
Monday, Aug. 4
The Police
w/ Elvis Costello
Tuesday, Aug. 5
Jethro Tull
w/ Peter Frampton
Saturday, Aug. 9
Rod Stewart
Tuesday, Aug. 19,
Artist
True Colors Tour
Sunday, June 1
Eric Clapton
Thursday, June 5
REM
Saturday, June 14
James Taylor
Saturday, June 21
Doobie Brothers and Chicago
Friday,June 27
Steve Miller
Friday, July 11
Rush
Monday, July 14
The Police
w/ Elvis Costello
Monday, Aug. 4
The Police
w/ Elvis Costello
Tuesday, Aug. 5
Jethro Tull
w/ Peter Frampton
Saturday, Aug. 9
Rod Stewart
Tuesday, Aug. 19,
Financial Advice/Planning Issues for Singles
A few years ago this same event was proposed and we had a good handful of people who were interested.
Basically, this event would start off with a little mingle followed by a guest speaker on the topic of:
A) Financial Planning for singles conducted by a certified financial planner who would discuss some issues that we should be considering regarding planning for the future
B) Eldercare session by a licensed elder care attorney. Our parents took care of us and unfortunately there comes a time when the tide turns and we need to care for them. Proper planning BEFORE a crisis is essential to keeping your family assets with you and not the government. I have had to use the services of an elder care attorney myself
Basically, this event would start off with a little mingle followed by a guest speaker on the topic of:
A) Financial Planning for singles conducted by a certified financial planner who would discuss some issues that we should be considering regarding planning for the future
B) Eldercare session by a licensed elder care attorney. Our parents took care of us and unfortunately there comes a time when the tide turns and we need to care for them. Proper planning BEFORE a crisis is essential to keeping your family assets with you and not the government. I have had to use the services of an elder care attorney myself
Casino Gambling Night for Singles
People have been asking me for the last two years to do some type of casino gambling night, so it seems to be about that time. Here are a few options based on your feedback, and I am open to your other thoughts, so please feel free to comment.
A) Atlantic City or Foxwoods Trip. Unfortunately the cost and liability associated with getting a "singles bus" will be cost prohibitive. Therefore, I can put together a speicific date and we can all arrange for our own transportation. Another option is to meet at a specific location where the bus tours to these locations are open to the public.
B) Empire City at Yonkers Raceway. Not as large as option A, but much closer. I can put together a specific date and we can all arrange for our own transportation
C) Casino Night at a local Long Island or NYC Venue. You would NOT be playing for money, but rather for prizes. Games would include blackjack, poker, over under and more. Icebreakers would start off the night prior to the casino night.
D) Bingo FOR MONEY at a local Long Island or NYC church or temple. I think they still do these events weekly.
E) Your thoughts or other ideas?
A) Atlantic City or Foxwoods Trip. Unfortunately the cost and liability associated with getting a "singles bus" will be cost prohibitive. Therefore, I can put together a speicific date and we can all arrange for our own transportation. Another option is to meet at a specific location where the bus tours to these locations are open to the public.
B) Empire City at Yonkers Raceway. Not as large as option A, but much closer. I can put together a specific date and we can all arrange for our own transportation
C) Casino Night at a local Long Island or NYC Venue. You would NOT be playing for money, but rather for prizes. Games would include blackjack, poker, over under and more. Icebreakers would start off the night prior to the casino night.
D) Bingo FOR MONEY at a local Long Island or NYC church or temple. I think they still do these events weekly.
E) Your thoughts or other ideas?
Tuesday, March 04, 2008
Use the Law of Attraction to Meet and Marry The One with Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman
New York Classes: Course 969GNY
You Can Win in Love!
If you want to find "The One" but have given up trying, this course is for you! Meet "Dr. Date" and learn what isn't working for you and how to develop a clear vision for success. Learn an "inside-out" approach to dating that will help you grow as a person and pick the partner who is right for you.
In this class you'll learn:
*The essentials of who you are & what you create in your life
*Your unconscious blueprint of relationships
*Your dating style (you'll take a quiz)
*"Your type" - the partner that you pick again and again
*Your important relationship requirements
*How to create a dating action plan
*Tools to date consciously & choose the one for you
NOTE: Materials Fee $5.
Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman wrote "Dating From The Inside-Out: Using The Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart," published by Atria Books in February 2008. Dr. Sherman is also the director of My Dating School (www.mydatingschool.com) which offers classes in dating issues & coaching, hosts an online singles community, and offers a free monthly dating e-zine. She is a dating expert on television and radio, a licensed psychologist, a certified coach, and an ordained minister, able to marry the singles that she coaches in most states. Her mission is to inspire and enlighten transformative relationships.
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Course 969GNY , Location: Manhattan
*Monday, March 31, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, April 28, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, May 12, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
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US $ 49.99 / $ 44.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate.
You Can Win in Love!
If you want to find "The One" but have given up trying, this course is for you! Meet "Dr. Date" and learn what isn't working for you and how to develop a clear vision for success. Learn an "inside-out" approach to dating that will help you grow as a person and pick the partner who is right for you.
In this class you'll learn:
*The essentials of who you are & what you create in your life
*Your unconscious blueprint of relationships
*Your dating style (you'll take a quiz)
*"Your type" - the partner that you pick again and again
*Your important relationship requirements
*How to create a dating action plan
*Tools to date consciously & choose the one for you
NOTE: Materials Fee $5.
Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman wrote "Dating From The Inside-Out: Using The Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart," published by Atria Books in February 2008. Dr. Sherman is also the director of My Dating School (www.mydatingschool.com) which offers classes in dating issues & coaching, hosts an online singles community, and offers a free monthly dating e-zine. She is a dating expert on television and radio, a licensed psychologist, a certified coach, and an ordained minister, able to marry the singles that she coaches in most states. Her mission is to inspire and enlighten transformative relationships.
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Course 969GNY , Location: Manhattan
*Monday, March 31, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, April 28, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, May 12, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
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US $ 49.99 / $ 44.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate.
UpDating: How to Date Out of Your League with Matt Titus
For MEN Only
New York Classes: Course 922ANY
In this unique course, Manhattan's premier dating coach Matt Titus will give you rock-solid tips for meeting and capturing a man or woman you thought you could never get.
Men, do you want to date an extremely beautiful woman? Matt teaches you why appearing to like her at first can knock you out of the running.
Women, do you yearn for a wealthy or high-class mate? Master all their habits! You'll see why a TV or carpeting in your living room can disqualify you. In fact, you'll take the "How Classy is Your Home?" quiz to see where your dwelling stands on the totem pole.
Or do you long for a loving, faithful man or woman with high principles? Perhaps someone creative, interesting, and maybe famous?!
These types of people don't respond to the same old flirtation techniques. You'll learn what works and what doesn't with extraordinary people. Best of all, you'll learn to make the superior qualities a part of your own life. That's the added benefit of UpDating!
Matt Titus is the premiere Manhattan relationship expert and dating coach and the the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a Manhattan matchmaking agency that caters exclusively to the city's single, successful, and selective women. He also recently launched the successful dating and relationship advice website Text in the City.com. Matt has appeared on E!, CW11, The Style Network, Fox 5 News, WGNTV, and The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, and is regularly featured in Life & Style magazine as the publication's "Love Doctor."
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Course 922ANY , Location: Manhattan
*Wednesday, March 12, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, April 7, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Tuesday, May 13, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
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US $ 44.99 / $ 39.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate
New York Classes: Course 922ANY
In this unique course, Manhattan's premier dating coach Matt Titus will give you rock-solid tips for meeting and capturing a man or woman you thought you could never get.
Men, do you want to date an extremely beautiful woman? Matt teaches you why appearing to like her at first can knock you out of the running.
Women, do you yearn for a wealthy or high-class mate? Master all their habits! You'll see why a TV or carpeting in your living room can disqualify you. In fact, you'll take the "How Classy is Your Home?" quiz to see where your dwelling stands on the totem pole.
Or do you long for a loving, faithful man or woman with high principles? Perhaps someone creative, interesting, and maybe famous?!
These types of people don't respond to the same old flirtation techniques. You'll learn what works and what doesn't with extraordinary people. Best of all, you'll learn to make the superior qualities a part of your own life. That's the added benefit of UpDating!
Matt Titus is the premiere Manhattan relationship expert and dating coach and the the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a Manhattan matchmaking agency that caters exclusively to the city's single, successful, and selective women. He also recently launched the successful dating and relationship advice website Text in the City.com. Matt has appeared on E!, CW11, The Style Network, Fox 5 News, WGNTV, and The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, and is regularly featured in Life & Style magazine as the publication's "Love Doctor."
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Course 922ANY , Location: Manhattan
*Wednesday, March 12, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, April 7, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Tuesday, May 13, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
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US $ 44.99 / $ 39.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate
Sunday, March 02, 2008
How to Meet Women You Want - Anytime and Anywhere! with Art Malov
How to Meet Women You Want - Anytime and Anywhere! with Art Malov
For MEN Only
New York Classes: Course 986ENY
The next beautiful woman you see could be your next date!
Have you ever seen a beautiful woman on your way to work, but didn't know how to approach her or even if you should? Or maybe you've seen a "great catch" at a party, but let the opportunity to strike up a conversation slip by. You don't have to wait for the "perfect time" or the "right situation" to meet someone new.
Dating coach and author Art Malov will show you how to meet more women, no matter what you're doing or what time of day it is. This class will reveal Art's proven techniques for getting a girl's attention and keeping it!
You'll learn:
*How to break the ice without rejection
*Five sure-fire ways to approach a woman on your way to work
*Dating "common sense" that will change your dating life
*The different strategies between meeting women at night versus during the day
*How to make meeting women fun
Art Malov has been a dating coach to men for many years and has written much on the art of meeting and dating, including his book "Park Bench Dating." He has appeared on the television show Love Around the World and in numerous publications, including the New York Times.
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Course 986ENY, Location: Manhattan
*Monday, March 10, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, April 14, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, May 05, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
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US $ 44.99 / $ 39.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate
For MEN Only
New York Classes: Course 986ENY
The next beautiful woman you see could be your next date!
Have you ever seen a beautiful woman on your way to work, but didn't know how to approach her or even if you should? Or maybe you've seen a "great catch" at a party, but let the opportunity to strike up a conversation slip by. You don't have to wait for the "perfect time" or the "right situation" to meet someone new.
Dating coach and author Art Malov will show you how to meet more women, no matter what you're doing or what time of day it is. This class will reveal Art's proven techniques for getting a girl's attention and keeping it!
You'll learn:
*How to break the ice without rejection
*Five sure-fire ways to approach a woman on your way to work
*Dating "common sense" that will change your dating life
*The different strategies between meeting women at night versus during the day
*How to make meeting women fun
Art Malov has been a dating coach to men for many years and has written much on the art of meeting and dating, including his book "Park Bench Dating." He has appeared on the television show Love Around the World and in numerous publications, including the New York Times.
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Course 986ENY, Location: Manhattan
*Monday, March 10, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, April 14, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, May 05, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
US $ 44.99 / $ 39.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate
Get Him to Call You Back And Other Inside Tips
Singles Workshops from The Learning Annex
Get Him to Call You Back And Other Inside Tips from NYC’s Dating Experts with Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal
For Women Only
Have you ever been out on what you thought was a great date, but then never heard from the guy again? Or maybe you've been in a situation where your relationship suddenly cooled just when you thought it was starting to heat up. What's going on?
In this no holds barred evening, NYC dating experts and master matchmakers Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal will share with you what guys really think about dating, what turns them off, and what leaves them wanting for more. You'll also learn:
*What guys really see when they look at you
*What they're thinking on a first date
*Where to go to find the "good guys"
*How to get him to call after the first date
*How to know if he's worth your time
Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are the stars of the Lifetime series Matched In Manhattan, and founders of the New York-based dating service Matt's Little Black Book, which has successfully matched up more than 2000 satisfied men and women. Together, they are the co-authors of the new book, "Why Hasn't He Called?" - a he-said she-said look at today's most frequently asked questions about love, dating, and relationships.
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Course 922BNY-Location: Manhattan
*Thursday, February 28, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Tuesday, March 25, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Wednesday, April 30, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, May 19, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
For Women Only
______________________________________________________
US $ 54.99 / $ 49.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate.
Get Him to Call You Back And Other Inside Tips from NYC’s Dating Experts with Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal
For Women Only
Have you ever been out on what you thought was a great date, but then never heard from the guy again? Or maybe you've been in a situation where your relationship suddenly cooled just when you thought it was starting to heat up. What's going on?
In this no holds barred evening, NYC dating experts and master matchmakers Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal will share with you what guys really think about dating, what turns them off, and what leaves them wanting for more. You'll also learn:
*What guys really see when they look at you
*What they're thinking on a first date
*Where to go to find the "good guys"
*How to get him to call after the first date
*How to know if he's worth your time
Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are the stars of the Lifetime series Matched In Manhattan, and founders of the New York-based dating service Matt's Little Black Book, which has successfully matched up more than 2000 satisfied men and women. Together, they are the co-authors of the new book, "Why Hasn't He Called?" - a he-said she-said look at today's most frequently asked questions about love, dating, and relationships.
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Course 922BNY-Location: Manhattan
*Thursday, February 28, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Tuesday, March 25, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Wednesday, April 30, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
*Monday, May 19, 2008 from 06:45 PM to 09:30 PM
For Women Only
______________________________________________________
US $ 54.99 / $ 49.99 Members
(SAVE AN EXTRA $10.00 by using promo code JayR08)
Register by calling the Learning Annex at (212) 371-0280, Mon-Fri 9-5. Make sure to use promo code JayR08 to get your extra savings.
*AFTER YOU REGISTER, IMMEDIATELY EMAIL JAY at Info@Weekenddating.com and I will send you a bonus gift certificate.
March 2008 Romance Horoscopes
March 2008 Romance Horoscopes-
From Vanessa Calderon
www.Seventhsenseastrology.com
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Venus, the goddess of love, will cross from your social, friendly and group-oriented sector into your personal, subconscious, and secretive sector this month, Aries. This means that the mood changes drastically for you just before the middle of the month. You will be dealing with your home life and family values, as well as any hidden information that your friends and lovers have been keeping under wraps. You will have to evaluate your deepest feelings about those who are closest to you, as well as decide how far you are willing to go to accept the darker qualities that exist in the people you love. You can pull the truth out of anyone now, and you might come across some unexpected skeletons in other people’s closets. Just remember that your skeletons are all going to be fair game for others to find out about as well.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
You become more sentimental this month, Taurus. You have the urge to move forward and take control of issues that face your loved ones. Your hard work in your relationships pays off around the middle of the month and people around you begin to return the extra attention you have been giving them. Make an effort to get out and socialize in the second half of the month, when the energy is ripe for you to find like-minded people for you to share thoughts and projects with. Love doesn’t only come in the form of romantic partners. Love takes flight while you immerse yourself altruistic pursuits as well.
GEMINI (May21-June21)
Interesting partners and acquaintances pop up in places where real estate and education meet. That sounds fairly specific, but if you wanted to learn more about the housing market, real estate finance, or any related fields, go for it. Keep your eyes open for potential partners places where you can discuss your work and your chosen profession in the second half of the month. People who have similar career interests and responsibilities are great prospects for long-term relationships, including those you may meet while on a job hunt. Long term changes will take place in your living situation over the next few years so you might want to delve into acquiring the knowledge to decorate, repair and enhance the value of your living quarters. Venus, Mars, Saturn and Pluto are likely to etch some ties you make while pursuing these interests in stone.
CANCER (June 22-July 23)
Feeling frisky this month, Cancer? Maybe that spring fever is hitting you a little harder than other signs. Mars is giving you an energy boost and Venus begins the month in a place where your sensuality takes center stage. Jupiter is likely to bring you luck all year long in partnerships, even ones that change and evolve. Remember that luck doesn’t only mean receiving, luck also means shedding the old for a great new model you never even saw coming. You will be feeling idealistic about relationships in the second half of the month. Reach for the stars now, and don’t let anyone tell you that you are expecting too much. You can ask for what you deserve, including a little more attention from the people you love.
LEO (July 23- Aug 22)
The stars say that this month, your partners may make things out to be all about them. We know that you need some coddling too, Leo, and you are more likely to get the attention you want if you play hard to get. You can do this while casually peeking over your shoulder with that cute little sly grin on your face, knowing that the temperature will heat up later in the month as Mercury and Venus cuddle up in a nice, warm place. Take care not to get into a battle of the wills with a partner in the second half of the month. Steamier temperatures on the passion scale could also ignite a temper or two, especially when discussing serious relationship issues. Certain subjects that you might want to avoid discussing could result in a few cats getting out of their bags. Think before you speak if there is information you would rather keep to yourself. Don’t say or admit anything you would regret revealing later.
VIRGO (Aug 23- Sept 22)
Virgo is the perpetual helper of the zodiac. You want to help so much, in fact, that you have a reputation for doing too much for other people. Take note that March will bring you plenty of opportunities to go out of your way to help people, and that is the way you like it. If you can remember that you cannot control other people’s decisions just because you have done a lot for them, then you should be ok. There is a real possibility in the second half of this month that you will have googley eyes for someone you are supposed to be helping. People you have done favors for might end up being more than just casual acquaintances. You will benefit from keeping in contact with these people but remember that it might not be a good idea to take things a step further and blur the lines between professionalism, friendliness, and romance.
LIBRA (Sept 23- Oct 23)
Love will take on an air of detachment and respect this month. You are usually very romantic and even mushy at times, but March may bring circumstances wherein you are all business and are faced with serious or technical decisions regarding loved ones. You will do more for people based on their well being, than based on your own emotions. This is definitely a side of Libra that doesn’t get acknowledged often: the side of you that is detail oriented as opposed to romantic and flowery. You will get just as much love in return, though, for being up to date on the mundane needs of those around you as you would for providing candlelight and roses, so go with the current flow of mental energy. Be a great example of someone who can care for all of the needs of others, not just the ones that require your softer, congenial side. Negotiations go your way more easily this month.
SCORPIO (Oct 24- Nov 21)
March begins with Venus giving you a little challenge in the romance department. You might be feeling fenced in until the second week of the month when you get a burst of emotional energy from the water signs. You swim well in this energy. It falls in a place in your chart where romance abounds, and touches on a desire to spread your winds and fly. You might be drawn to unusual and eccentric people all month, which tingles your senses. This is marvelous for you because you are arguably the most sensual sign in the zodiac, hands down. Just don’t be disappointed if at first your muse plays hard to get. He or she will come around respond to your charms more readily in the second half of the month than in the first.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22- Dec 21)
Partners of many kinds have the potential to force issues dealing with money this month, Sag. All will not be nice and rosy until any financial paperwork or deals are approved and mutually agreed upon. Furthermore, any joint finances or shared resources, including but not limited to cars and real estate demand your attention. Not the most fun time of 2008 for you, but if you are willing to be creative and think outside of the box, you can work with your loved ones to maneuver bits and pieces here and there so that everyone comes out of this happier and satisfied. Lots of loose ends in relationships can be tied up this month. The first part of the month is better for dealing with the technical issues in relationships, and the second half is better for working out your emotional issues with other people.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22- Jan 19)
You have a powerful energy boost in the sectors of your birth chart that deal with your own self worth, and the opinions and actions of your partners. This is how the months begins and ends. Don’t be surprised if anyone you have a close relationship with challenges you to go deeper, or to toughen up. You may be asked to you-know-what or get off the pot, or you may be asking someone else to do the same thing. There isn’t a lot of wiggle room here, so be cautious about how you respond to perceived slights. Words that are spoken now can actually cement, or destroy, any relationship. On the more positive end of things, you have the potential to become absorbed in a partnership in a very deep way. You can also have a love at first sight experience. Enjoy it but make sure to confirm that it’s love, not lust.
AQUARIUS (Jan 20- Feb 20)
March begins with Venus in your sign and that makes you happy not just because it enhances your appearance, but because it also means that the general romantic energy that is swirling around is one you can relate to. Communicating your feelings is easy until the second week of the month when Venus and Mercury ask you to get a bit more serious about emotional ties. More introspection is needed as to how you value material things, but more importantly, the value you place on your loved ones. Joint financial resources will most likely be lucrative for you, but in a trickle-down sort of way. It seems as if there are lots of rewards coming to you for your hard work both in terms of money and in personal relationships, and they will. They just won’t all come at one time. It is better to get what you truly need in consistent drips and drabs, then to have the whole sky open up and dump it all on you at once.
PISCES (Feb 21- March 20)
March begins with you having the opportunity to associate with some interesting groups of people. People are looking to broaden their horizons and you are being asked to loosen up and have more fun. Not all changes have to be sad ones, and not all endings are really endings but the beginnings of new adventures. Someone like you who is of an emotional nature may take longer to see it that way, but once you do, you’ll be happy with the results of the sudden eruptions around you. Relationship challenges that you may encounter in the middle of the month probably stem from ideological differences and that is what makes them interesting. On the flip side, an infusion of passionate emotional energy is just what your relationships need now and you’ll get those waves from the middle of the month right through the end. March definitely won’t be boring.
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If you're fed up with dating games that leave you frustrated and confused,
check out "Smart Dating for Success Every Time - Guaranteed" - dedicated to men and women who are ready for the best love has to offer!
From Vanessa Calderon
www.Seventhsenseastrology.com
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Venus, the goddess of love, will cross from your social, friendly and group-oriented sector into your personal, subconscious, and secretive sector this month, Aries. This means that the mood changes drastically for you just before the middle of the month. You will be dealing with your home life and family values, as well as any hidden information that your friends and lovers have been keeping under wraps. You will have to evaluate your deepest feelings about those who are closest to you, as well as decide how far you are willing to go to accept the darker qualities that exist in the people you love. You can pull the truth out of anyone now, and you might come across some unexpected skeletons in other people’s closets. Just remember that your skeletons are all going to be fair game for others to find out about as well.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
You become more sentimental this month, Taurus. You have the urge to move forward and take control of issues that face your loved ones. Your hard work in your relationships pays off around the middle of the month and people around you begin to return the extra attention you have been giving them. Make an effort to get out and socialize in the second half of the month, when the energy is ripe for you to find like-minded people for you to share thoughts and projects with. Love doesn’t only come in the form of romantic partners. Love takes flight while you immerse yourself altruistic pursuits as well.
GEMINI (May21-June21)
Interesting partners and acquaintances pop up in places where real estate and education meet. That sounds fairly specific, but if you wanted to learn more about the housing market, real estate finance, or any related fields, go for it. Keep your eyes open for potential partners places where you can discuss your work and your chosen profession in the second half of the month. People who have similar career interests and responsibilities are great prospects for long-term relationships, including those you may meet while on a job hunt. Long term changes will take place in your living situation over the next few years so you might want to delve into acquiring the knowledge to decorate, repair and enhance the value of your living quarters. Venus, Mars, Saturn and Pluto are likely to etch some ties you make while pursuing these interests in stone.
CANCER (June 22-July 23)
Feeling frisky this month, Cancer? Maybe that spring fever is hitting you a little harder than other signs. Mars is giving you an energy boost and Venus begins the month in a place where your sensuality takes center stage. Jupiter is likely to bring you luck all year long in partnerships, even ones that change and evolve. Remember that luck doesn’t only mean receiving, luck also means shedding the old for a great new model you never even saw coming. You will be feeling idealistic about relationships in the second half of the month. Reach for the stars now, and don’t let anyone tell you that you are expecting too much. You can ask for what you deserve, including a little more attention from the people you love.
LEO (July 23- Aug 22)
The stars say that this month, your partners may make things out to be all about them. We know that you need some coddling too, Leo, and you are more likely to get the attention you want if you play hard to get. You can do this while casually peeking over your shoulder with that cute little sly grin on your face, knowing that the temperature will heat up later in the month as Mercury and Venus cuddle up in a nice, warm place. Take care not to get into a battle of the wills with a partner in the second half of the month. Steamier temperatures on the passion scale could also ignite a temper or two, especially when discussing serious relationship issues. Certain subjects that you might want to avoid discussing could result in a few cats getting out of their bags. Think before you speak if there is information you would rather keep to yourself. Don’t say or admit anything you would regret revealing later.
VIRGO (Aug 23- Sept 22)
Virgo is the perpetual helper of the zodiac. You want to help so much, in fact, that you have a reputation for doing too much for other people. Take note that March will bring you plenty of opportunities to go out of your way to help people, and that is the way you like it. If you can remember that you cannot control other people’s decisions just because you have done a lot for them, then you should be ok. There is a real possibility in the second half of this month that you will have googley eyes for someone you are supposed to be helping. People you have done favors for might end up being more than just casual acquaintances. You will benefit from keeping in contact with these people but remember that it might not be a good idea to take things a step further and blur the lines between professionalism, friendliness, and romance.
LIBRA (Sept 23- Oct 23)
Love will take on an air of detachment and respect this month. You are usually very romantic and even mushy at times, but March may bring circumstances wherein you are all business and are faced with serious or technical decisions regarding loved ones. You will do more for people based on their well being, than based on your own emotions. This is definitely a side of Libra that doesn’t get acknowledged often: the side of you that is detail oriented as opposed to romantic and flowery. You will get just as much love in return, though, for being up to date on the mundane needs of those around you as you would for providing candlelight and roses, so go with the current flow of mental energy. Be a great example of someone who can care for all of the needs of others, not just the ones that require your softer, congenial side. Negotiations go your way more easily this month.
SCORPIO (Oct 24- Nov 21)
March begins with Venus giving you a little challenge in the romance department. You might be feeling fenced in until the second week of the month when you get a burst of emotional energy from the water signs. You swim well in this energy. It falls in a place in your chart where romance abounds, and touches on a desire to spread your winds and fly. You might be drawn to unusual and eccentric people all month, which tingles your senses. This is marvelous for you because you are arguably the most sensual sign in the zodiac, hands down. Just don’t be disappointed if at first your muse plays hard to get. He or she will come around respond to your charms more readily in the second half of the month than in the first.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22- Dec 21)
Partners of many kinds have the potential to force issues dealing with money this month, Sag. All will not be nice and rosy until any financial paperwork or deals are approved and mutually agreed upon. Furthermore, any joint finances or shared resources, including but not limited to cars and real estate demand your attention. Not the most fun time of 2008 for you, but if you are willing to be creative and think outside of the box, you can work with your loved ones to maneuver bits and pieces here and there so that everyone comes out of this happier and satisfied. Lots of loose ends in relationships can be tied up this month. The first part of the month is better for dealing with the technical issues in relationships, and the second half is better for working out your emotional issues with other people.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22- Jan 19)
You have a powerful energy boost in the sectors of your birth chart that deal with your own self worth, and the opinions and actions of your partners. This is how the months begins and ends. Don’t be surprised if anyone you have a close relationship with challenges you to go deeper, or to toughen up. You may be asked to you-know-what or get off the pot, or you may be asking someone else to do the same thing. There isn’t a lot of wiggle room here, so be cautious about how you respond to perceived slights. Words that are spoken now can actually cement, or destroy, any relationship. On the more positive end of things, you have the potential to become absorbed in a partnership in a very deep way. You can also have a love at first sight experience. Enjoy it but make sure to confirm that it’s love, not lust.
AQUARIUS (Jan 20- Feb 20)
March begins with Venus in your sign and that makes you happy not just because it enhances your appearance, but because it also means that the general romantic energy that is swirling around is one you can relate to. Communicating your feelings is easy until the second week of the month when Venus and Mercury ask you to get a bit more serious about emotional ties. More introspection is needed as to how you value material things, but more importantly, the value you place on your loved ones. Joint financial resources will most likely be lucrative for you, but in a trickle-down sort of way. It seems as if there are lots of rewards coming to you for your hard work both in terms of money and in personal relationships, and they will. They just won’t all come at one time. It is better to get what you truly need in consistent drips and drabs, then to have the whole sky open up and dump it all on you at once.
PISCES (Feb 21- March 20)
March begins with you having the opportunity to associate with some interesting groups of people. People are looking to broaden their horizons and you are being asked to loosen up and have more fun. Not all changes have to be sad ones, and not all endings are really endings but the beginnings of new adventures. Someone like you who is of an emotional nature may take longer to see it that way, but once you do, you’ll be happy with the results of the sudden eruptions around you. Relationship challenges that you may encounter in the middle of the month probably stem from ideological differences and that is what makes them interesting. On the flip side, an infusion of passionate emotional energy is just what your relationships need now and you’ll get those waves from the middle of the month right through the end. March definitely won’t be boring.
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check out "Smart Dating for Success Every Time - Guaranteed" - dedicated to men and women who are ready for the best love has to offer!
Sunday, February 24, 2008
G String and the Gym
A note from Dave
Hi Jay, I really enjoy reading your blogs and was hoping you could ask your female readers to comment on something.
While at the gym, I saw this absolutely gorgeous woman working out. She had a gorgeous face and an amazing body, wearing very tight clothes. While she was working out, everyone could see her g string coming out. She caught me looking and gave me the dirtiest look I have ever seen.
I just don't get it. She obviously was dressed like that because she wanted the attention, but then gets mad when people are looking. Why the heck do women dress sexy like that, and then get mad if a man is looking!!
Well ladies, can you answer this? Please comment in the blog.
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If you're fed up with dating games that leave you frustrated and confused,
check out "Smart Dating for Success Every Time - Guaranteed" - dedicated to men and women who are ready for the best love has to offer!
A note from Dave
Hi Jay, I really enjoy reading your blogs and was hoping you could ask your female readers to comment on something.
While at the gym, I saw this absolutely gorgeous woman working out. She had a gorgeous face and an amazing body, wearing very tight clothes. While she was working out, everyone could see her g string coming out. She caught me looking and gave me the dirtiest look I have ever seen.
I just don't get it. She obviously was dressed like that because she wanted the attention, but then gets mad when people are looking. Why the heck do women dress sexy like that, and then get mad if a man is looking!!
Well ladies, can you answer this? Please comment in the blog.
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If you're fed up with dating games that leave you frustrated and confused,
check out "Smart Dating for Success Every Time - Guaranteed" - dedicated to men and women who are ready for the best love has to offer!
What Men are Trying to Say
from www.tesh.com
It’s time for a “Manglish” lesson! Scott Haltzman is the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men, and he believes the differences between men and women cause serious miscommunication. His ‘Man-speak to English’ dictionary will help you understand what men really mean.
When a guy says, “We should hang out some time,” he means: “I want to ask you out, but I’m afraid you'll say ‘no’.” That way, if you blow off his offer to ‘hang out’, it does minimal damage to his fragile male ego because he never really asked you out anyway. Ladies, know that to a guy, ‘hanging out’, is actually a date.
When a man compliments your clothing, he's complimenting your looks. Most men don’t care about fashion. They want you to know you’re attractive without making you uncomfortable.
The 3rd entry in our ‘Man-speak to English’ dictionary: “You’re too good for me.” Ladies, men are chickens when it comes to emotional discussions. So, when you hear that or a line like, “Maybe we should take a break from each other,” he’s trying to get out of the relationship without having a ‘big talk’ or hurting your feelings.
Which brings us to #4: “I’m listening.” When your man says he’s paying attention -but you know he's not, that’s another way of saying, “I really don’t want to get into a heavy discussion right now.” Don’t take it personally. Instead, be direct and to the point. If he still doesn’t respond, ask him when he’d like to continue the conversation.
If your man says, “I think I’m falling in love with you,” He's trying to say, “I love you, but I don't want to tell you until I’m sure you'll say it back.” For women, talking about emotions is a way to bond, but men see it as a sign of weakness. Words like “think” and “falling” allow males to express their emotions in a safe way – without actually committing to them.
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If you're fed up with dating games that leave you frustrated and confused,
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It’s time for a “Manglish” lesson! Scott Haltzman is the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men, and he believes the differences between men and women cause serious miscommunication. His ‘Man-speak to English’ dictionary will help you understand what men really mean.
When a guy says, “We should hang out some time,” he means: “I want to ask you out, but I’m afraid you'll say ‘no’.” That way, if you blow off his offer to ‘hang out’, it does minimal damage to his fragile male ego because he never really asked you out anyway. Ladies, know that to a guy, ‘hanging out’, is actually a date.
When a man compliments your clothing, he's complimenting your looks. Most men don’t care about fashion. They want you to know you’re attractive without making you uncomfortable.
The 3rd entry in our ‘Man-speak to English’ dictionary: “You’re too good for me.” Ladies, men are chickens when it comes to emotional discussions. So, when you hear that or a line like, “Maybe we should take a break from each other,” he’s trying to get out of the relationship without having a ‘big talk’ or hurting your feelings.
Which brings us to #4: “I’m listening.” When your man says he’s paying attention -but you know he's not, that’s another way of saying, “I really don’t want to get into a heavy discussion right now.” Don’t take it personally. Instead, be direct and to the point. If he still doesn’t respond, ask him when he’d like to continue the conversation.
If your man says, “I think I’m falling in love with you,” He's trying to say, “I love you, but I don't want to tell you until I’m sure you'll say it back.” For women, talking about emotions is a way to bond, but men see it as a sign of weakness. Words like “think” and “falling” allow males to express their emotions in a safe way – without actually committing to them.
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How do you know when somebody likes you?
From www.tesh.com
Two words: body language! So, next time you’re on a date, here are the signs to look for – and the signs to put out there - if you’re interested in getting to date number 2. These tips come from David Givens, author of 'Love Signals: The Body Language of Courtship":
One of the first signals that someone is interested in you is: rapid eye blinking. The average person blinks 20 times a minute. But if they blink faster than that, they’re either under stress – or they’re attracted to you.
Then there’s the mimic. If someone’s “into” you, they’ll mimic your behavior. For example, if you stretch, yawn, or lean, they do it, too. It means they’re paying attention to your actions and displaying a natural rapport. So, if you want your date to know you’re interested, make a point to mimic their behavior.
Another way to tell someone likes you is if they touch anything you usually carry. Like your cell phone, pen, or purse. Those things are called “body extensions,” and touching them means they may be getting ready to touch your hand.
There’s also the male reach. Men often reach toward someone they find attractive. Without making actual physical contact. For example, he reaches toward you across the table, and pats the tablecloth for emphasis.
There’s the hair preen. People tend to touch their hair, twirl the ends, or run their fingers through it when they’re near someone they like. Why? Because it calls attention to their face.
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Two words: body language! So, next time you’re on a date, here are the signs to look for – and the signs to put out there - if you’re interested in getting to date number 2. These tips come from David Givens, author of 'Love Signals: The Body Language of Courtship":
One of the first signals that someone is interested in you is: rapid eye blinking. The average person blinks 20 times a minute. But if they blink faster than that, they’re either under stress – or they’re attracted to you.
Then there’s the mimic. If someone’s “into” you, they’ll mimic your behavior. For example, if you stretch, yawn, or lean, they do it, too. It means they’re paying attention to your actions and displaying a natural rapport. So, if you want your date to know you’re interested, make a point to mimic their behavior.
Another way to tell someone likes you is if they touch anything you usually carry. Like your cell phone, pen, or purse. Those things are called “body extensions,” and touching them means they may be getting ready to touch your hand.
There’s also the male reach. Men often reach toward someone they find attractive. Without making actual physical contact. For example, he reaches toward you across the table, and pats the tablecloth for emphasis.
There’s the hair preen. People tend to touch their hair, twirl the ends, or run their fingers through it when they’re near someone they like. Why? Because it calls attention to their face.
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Sunday, February 10, 2008
Sugar Mamma's and Boy Toys
From CNBC.com
Romances between rich older men and beautiful, young women have gone on for centuries. But in 2008, the tables may have finally turned.
In Manhattan Thursday night, a speed-dating event sought to pair wealthy older women with younger, attractive men. “Older women with younger men is absolutely becoming an emerging trend, says Jeremy Abelson, CEO of Pocket Change, an upscale living e-newsletter, and organizer of the event. “The reason I feel so good about what we’re doing is because we are supporting the fact that it's the women’s turn.”
The event was held at a posh, intimately lit bar atop a Midtown high rise. Women had to be older than 35 and earn a minimum salary of $500,000--or have at least $4 million in liquid assets. The men, however, were judged solely based on their physical attractiveness.
“All I hear all day long is that ‘Oh, I’d really rather date a guy younger, who can keep up with me,” says Janis Spindel, a professional matchmaker and author. “So you know what, it was really time to give the women a turn.”
Spindel helped Pocket Change narrow down the 6,000 male applicants and hundreds of female applicants to just 15 attractive men and 15 wealthy women.
Women who pursue men more than seven years their junior are sometimes derogatorily referred to as “cougars,” because of the perception that they’re on the hunt. But times are changing.
Well-to-do middle-aged women are tired of seeing male counterparts with girls half their age, so at Pocket Change’s Sugar Mamas & Boy Toys event, these successful women got a shot at seeing how the other half lives.
“At a certain age, the trophy wife syndrome is so prevalent," says Vivian Cha, a 47-year-old physician and speed-dating contestant. "The older man, in his 40s or 50s, goes for the younger blond bimbo, who’s 20 or 30 years old. We older women sort of get thrown to the dust, so I think this is a great idea.”
Attractive young men seeking their own Mrs. Robinson jumped at the chance to meet a woman with more “experience.”
“I’m definitely interested in being surprised or wowed," says Paul Janka, a 32-year-old writer who authored an online guidebook for men called "Getting Laid in NYC."
"If anyone’s going to do it, it’s some of these women who have the assets and the resources to put together exceptional getaway vacations.
"Some of these more mature women have a lot of bedroom experience under their belt, so to speak, so that could be interesting to explore, too,” he adds.
The idea of choosing a mate based on bank accounts or appearance may seem shallow to some, but not to Pocket Change’s Abelson.
“I think any time you imply that money has something to do with love, people get all up in arms about it, but it’s a fact of life,” she said.
For some, it’s a fact of later life.
Romances between rich older men and beautiful, young women have gone on for centuries. But in 2008, the tables may have finally turned.
In Manhattan Thursday night, a speed-dating event sought to pair wealthy older women with younger, attractive men. “Older women with younger men is absolutely becoming an emerging trend, says Jeremy Abelson, CEO of Pocket Change, an upscale living e-newsletter, and organizer of the event. “The reason I feel so good about what we’re doing is because we are supporting the fact that it's the women’s turn.”
The event was held at a posh, intimately lit bar atop a Midtown high rise. Women had to be older than 35 and earn a minimum salary of $500,000--or have at least $4 million in liquid assets. The men, however, were judged solely based on their physical attractiveness.
“All I hear all day long is that ‘Oh, I’d really rather date a guy younger, who can keep up with me,” says Janis Spindel, a professional matchmaker and author. “So you know what, it was really time to give the women a turn.”
Spindel helped Pocket Change narrow down the 6,000 male applicants and hundreds of female applicants to just 15 attractive men and 15 wealthy women.
Women who pursue men more than seven years their junior are sometimes derogatorily referred to as “cougars,” because of the perception that they’re on the hunt. But times are changing.
Well-to-do middle-aged women are tired of seeing male counterparts with girls half their age, so at Pocket Change’s Sugar Mamas & Boy Toys event, these successful women got a shot at seeing how the other half lives.
“At a certain age, the trophy wife syndrome is so prevalent," says Vivian Cha, a 47-year-old physician and speed-dating contestant. "The older man, in his 40s or 50s, goes for the younger blond bimbo, who’s 20 or 30 years old. We older women sort of get thrown to the dust, so I think this is a great idea.”
Attractive young men seeking their own Mrs. Robinson jumped at the chance to meet a woman with more “experience.”
“I’m definitely interested in being surprised or wowed," says Paul Janka, a 32-year-old writer who authored an online guidebook for men called "Getting Laid in NYC."
"If anyone’s going to do it, it’s some of these women who have the assets and the resources to put together exceptional getaway vacations.
"Some of these more mature women have a lot of bedroom experience under their belt, so to speak, so that could be interesting to explore, too,” he adds.
The idea of choosing a mate based on bank accounts or appearance may seem shallow to some, but not to Pocket Change’s Abelson.
“I think any time you imply that money has something to do with love, people get all up in arms about it, but it’s a fact of life,” she said.
For some, it’s a fact of later life.
Thursday, February 07, 2008
5 things Women shouldnt say to Men
From www.Tesh.com
You remember the playground rhyme: “Sticks and stones may break my bones. But words can never hurt me!” Well, that is SO not true! Ladies – here are the five things you should never say to a man – unless you want to get on his nerves. This intelligence comes from MSN Lifestyle:
The first no-no: “That looks cute.” Men want to look handsome, great or stylish. They never want to look cute. That’s a word that should only be used for puppies, toddlers and Hello Kitty merchandise. Men are supposed to be your protector and your rock and the minute you say “cute,” they'll never wear that shirt or hat or whatever it is again.
Another thing no guy wants to hear: “We need to talk.” The instant you say that, their brain goes on the defensive and they'll do whatever they can to get away from you and the dreaded “conversation.” Bottom line: If you want to discuss a delicate topic, take them somewhere they feel comfortable. Like a sports bar. Then tell them how you feel. They won’t be happy to have “the talk” then either – but they'll be less likely to run.
Another no-no statement: “It’s just a game.” It’s never just a game. Sports are a major part of their lives and their team’s successes and failures affect their mood as much as anything else. Saying “it’s just a game” makes their passions seem trivial and unimportant and they’re not. At least, not to them.
Also, never say: “Nothing’s wrong.” If there was nothing wrong, your arms wouldn’t be crossed so tightly your head’s about to explode. Men are not mind-readers. They don’t know whether you’re upset because they left wet towels on the floor, or forgot your birthday. Tell them what’s going on and don’t make them guess – because they’ve got a pretty vivid imagination.
The final comment no man wants to hear: “Do you think she’s pretty?” If a beautiful woman walks by – or pops on the movie screen – the answer’s going to be “yes.” Just because we appreciate the scenery, doesn’t mean we think any less of you. So when an attractive woman rears her head – if you don’t want to know the answer, pretend you didn’t notice and we’ll do the same.
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You remember the playground rhyme: “Sticks and stones may break my bones. But words can never hurt me!” Well, that is SO not true! Ladies – here are the five things you should never say to a man – unless you want to get on his nerves. This intelligence comes from MSN Lifestyle:
The first no-no: “That looks cute.” Men want to look handsome, great or stylish. They never want to look cute. That’s a word that should only be used for puppies, toddlers and Hello Kitty merchandise. Men are supposed to be your protector and your rock and the minute you say “cute,” they'll never wear that shirt or hat or whatever it is again.
Another thing no guy wants to hear: “We need to talk.” The instant you say that, their brain goes on the defensive and they'll do whatever they can to get away from you and the dreaded “conversation.” Bottom line: If you want to discuss a delicate topic, take them somewhere they feel comfortable. Like a sports bar. Then tell them how you feel. They won’t be happy to have “the talk” then either – but they'll be less likely to run.
Another no-no statement: “It’s just a game.” It’s never just a game. Sports are a major part of their lives and their team’s successes and failures affect their mood as much as anything else. Saying “it’s just a game” makes their passions seem trivial and unimportant and they’re not. At least, not to them.
Also, never say: “Nothing’s wrong.” If there was nothing wrong, your arms wouldn’t be crossed so tightly your head’s about to explode. Men are not mind-readers. They don’t know whether you’re upset because they left wet towels on the floor, or forgot your birthday. Tell them what’s going on and don’t make them guess – because they’ve got a pretty vivid imagination.
The final comment no man wants to hear: “Do you think she’s pretty?” If a beautiful woman walks by – or pops on the movie screen – the answer’s going to be “yes.” Just because we appreciate the scenery, doesn’t mean we think any less of you. So when an attractive woman rears her head – if you don’t want to know the answer, pretend you didn’t notice and we’ll do the same.
If you're fed up with dating games that leave you frustrated and confused,
check out "Smart Dating for Success Every Time - Guaranteed" - dedicated to men and women who are ready for the best love has to offer!
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