Thursday, January 31, 2008

February Love Horoscopes

Your Romance and Partnership Horoscopes for February
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To Find Out How Pluto’s Entrance Into Capricorn
Effects Your Sun Sign!

(March 21 – April 19)

ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Events in the beginning of February could change your perspective on issues involving members of your immediate social circle, Aries. The tone becomes quite serious for your taste. Pluto and Jupiter are in Capricorn now, which puts you at an interesting turning point in your career and also changes the way other people perceive you. Venus joins the other two planets in Capricorn so your love life is affected by the seriousness, and sometimes coldness of Saturn. Maybe you’ll work more then play until the second half of the month when Venus enters Aquarius. Then your ruler, Mars, the planet of passion, will have someone to play with.

(April 20-May 20)

TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Ideological differences are highlighted between you and people who you work with, or between you and those people with whom you have financial interests in common. People in those positions will have no problem speaking their minds even if you don’t want to hear what they have to say. However, you have Earth energy on your side, with your ruling planet Venus buddying up with Jupiter and Pluto in Capricorn, so lay low and just let them talk. The second half of the month creates stimulating, as opposed to annoying conversation. You may still not agree with or understand your partners’ feelings, so just hang in there until March when softer, more emotional energy returns.

(May 21 – June-21)

GEMINI (May21-June21)
The party is over, Gemini, when it comes to having your cake and eating it too. Well, that energy actually flew the coop in January, as the effects of Jupiter’s entrance into Capricorn took root. The beginning of February looks like to will be a time of balancing all of your resources and desires so that you can paint an accurate picture of where you are and where you want to be in relationships. The second half of the month will definitely bring clarity and answers pertaining to your romantic life when Mercury and Venus find each other again in Aquarius. The end of the month is also a great time to research opportunities in other States or countries that could bring you financial gain or career advancement.

(June 22 – July 23)
CANCER (June 22-July 23)
Ok, if you think you have experienced intense emotional connections in the past then forget about them. Just wait till you see what Pluto has in store for you over the next several years! No one is saying it is going to be easy, mainly because Moonchildren are extra sensitive to emotional tides to begin with. But with a little persistence and a whole lot of faith in your ability to adapt, this month will prove to be the beginning of a whole new journey for you in the areas of partnerships, marriage, and romance. Just remember this: sometimes what we think is good for us isn’t, and sometimes what we fight against turns out to be the thing we needed most. As for the short term: The end of February will be a bit easier than the beginning because you tend to gel with Pisces energy better than Aquarian energy. The ball will be in your court more so next month when you feel like asserting yourself again, courtesy of Mars.

(July 23 – August 22)

LEO (July 23- Aug 22)
You are being asked to be of service to your loved ones in some way this month, Leo as Venus is under some heavy responsibility right now. Also, you have a back tracking Mercury in your marriage and partnership house, and it is being illuminated by the sun. The best you can do with all this is retrace your steps so that you do not repeat past mistakes in love. Nurturing your friendships are one area where you should focus a lot of your stamina. You will have until March to use the forward motion of Mars to your advantage. Watch your own health while you are out taking care of others, so that you don’t experience burnout by the time you go into a more introspective phase next month.

(August 23 – Sept 22)

VIRGO (Aug 23- Sept 22)
You will undergo a lot of transformation in the areas of your life that concern children, fun activities, romance and creativity over the next several years. February brings some situations wherein you can see this energy take root. You begin this month by reflecting on the limitations that you have been feeling in your romantic life and you end it with some clue as to what to do about them. In between you may have to take care of some of your own business and get your footing, but all in all, by the end of February you will have a better idea of what you want your partnerships to look like as the sun moves in to Pisces.

(Sept 23 - October 23)

LIBRA (Sept 23- Oct 23)
Are you longing for a romance from the past, Libra? You may find yourself looking backward quite a bit this month. You feel nostalgic for a past partner or for the close friends with whom you have not had much contact. My guess is you will be pleased by the middle of the month when opportunities come your way to rekindle those feelings and relationships. If you decide to make contact with old partners, be they romantic, career related, friendships or otherwise, only expect half of the effort to be returned. A lot has changed since you last visited these places in your past. I am sure that with the way the planets are lining up, you will be able to reconnect fully with at least one person, or set of circumstances, and you will be glad you made that call.

(October 24 – Nov 21)

SCORPIO (Oct 24- Nov 21)
You might be headed for a little bit of an easier time financially, or at least that area of your life will be less chaotic. Now you can concentrate on what kind of lifestyle you want to have in the New Year. Socially, you might retreat in the first half of the month so you can reevaluate your approach to partners that have been close to you. The second half of the month is very good for finding someone you will begin to connect with on a deep level. It is a great time for bonding with one person both emotionally and mentally, so even if you are still feeling introspective, go scope out the social scene.

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22- Dec 21)
Pesky Pluto is finally out of the way and Mars is in your corner this month, Sag. This should have you feeling like there is new hope in many areas of your life, not the least of which will be the areas concerning partnership, marriage, children, and your general freedom to express yourself creatively. Now that everything seems to be calming down a bit you can focus on your finances. Socially, you will have to, or want to, stay close to home this month. There still is the possibility that you will have to revisit a place you have recently traveled to, but it won’t be too far away. The first half of the month feels like the dust from 2007 is settling and the second half allows you to sit down and evaluate where you are and who you have become.

(Dec 22 – January 19 )

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22- Jan 19)
Jupiter and Venus making you mushy in the first half of the month, Cap? Yes, you. Emotional. Mushy. Intensely so. Pluto isn’t helping. This time of year is when the planets have mostly zipped past your sign but the three left over in February are going to make a big impression. Romantically, you are someone’s ideal, their crush, and/or their conquest. Whether he or she actually conquers you or not is up to you. Use your magnetism for good, please. Don’t let your mundane responsibilities suffer if you are overwhelmed by all of the energy pulsing around you. The second half of the month could have you jolting back to something that looks like reality as the sun enters Pisces. Short trips are suggested if some sincere bonding is necessary.

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

AQUARIUS (Jan 20- Feb 20)
Your intuition is going to be right on this month. The same planetary alignment that ups your intuition could also lead to a foggy headedness that makes things you should have seen coming feel like major surprises. Romance and fun are in high gear and if you go out and make yourself part of the social scene, you’ll be electrified. Your self-image is changing and that will in turn shift your relationships with many people. Aquarians have moved into a period of being able to reach into the subconscious minds of both themselves and others more easily than before. You are encouraged to focus on your own inner changes, and not worry about what your partners are doing. The end of the month can bring a specific challenge in the areas of romance and a rift between you and someone you are close with may develop, or you might have to make a difficult and emotional decision.

(Feb 19 – March 20)

PISCES (Feb 21- March 20)
You have a lot of action taking place in the areas of friends and close partners this month. It is a great time for buddying up with someone you never had the chance to share a real bond with before. Also, someone close to you who moves in and out of your life regularly will likely move in and then out again, or vice verse. It’s too difficult to tell when that person will reappear again so let it be a mystery. In the second half of the month, try not to take someone’s harsh words as a personal attack on you or on a loved one. The words may come from a trusted partner and may be communicated in a nasty manner, and the sun in your sign will still make you feel as if the incident is a personal attack. Don’t even worry about it. It’ll blow over and be forgotten.

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Why Men are happier people!

Men Are Just Happier People--
 What do you expect from such simple creatures?

*Your last name stays put.
*Wedding plans take care of themselves.
*Chocolate is just another snack.
*You can never be pregnant.
*You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.
*You can wear NO shirt to a water park.
*Car mechanics tell you the truth.
*You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky.
*Same work, more pay.
*Wrinkles add character.
*Wedding dress $5000. Tux rental-$100.
*People never stare at your chest when you're talking to them.
*One mood all the time.
*Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
*A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.
*You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.
*If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend.
*Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.
*Three pairs of shoes are more than enough.
*The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades.
*You only have to shave your face and neck.
*One wallet and one pair of shoes -- one color for all seasons.
*You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look.
*You can 'do' your nails with a pocket knife.
*You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.
*You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25 minutes.

No wonder men are happier.

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Friday, January 18, 2008

Signs that your date is not the one

If you’re looking for your soul mate and wondering if it’s the person you’ve been dating, you should pay attention to the little voice in your head if you’ve got some doubts. Here are the signs that your date is NOT The One, courtesy of

Sign #1: Your date overspends, and you’re stingy. If one of you shops to feel good, and the other prefers saving for the future, look out – it’ll only lead to irritation, frustration and arguments. Get out while your credit card balance is still manageable.

Sign #2: They just don’t get your jokes. If that obscure reference gets you polite but confused giggles on your first few dates, your differences might be met with frosty silence down the road. For example, if you’re a Garrison Keillor fan, and he’s more of a Borat type of guy - you’ll probably never be laughing at the same time.

Sign #3 : One of you wants kids and the other doesn’t. Some people assume having children goes along with love and marriage, but a lot of people are happy being a twosome ‘til death do them part. So, make sure you have a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s important to know where you each stand on this impending deal-breaker. Just don’t do it on the FIRST date. That’ll send them packing before you have time to figure out their long-term potential.

Sign #4: Your lifestyles are too different. If you’re a corporate exec pulling in six-figures, and they’re content with a much more modest salary, that might be okay with you. If it’s not, don’t get their hopes up. Move on, or you’re always going to feel resentful and they’re always going to feel inadequate.

Sign #5: The relationship has you on edge. The right person should lift you up and strengthen you, not give you anxiety. Listen to your gut if it’s telling you something’s wrong.
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Sunday, January 13, 2008

Struggeling from a break up?

Here’s how to get on the fast track to recovery, courtesy of Weider Publications.

Clean house. Breakup coach Francisco Bujan says the first step to recover from a breakup is to reclaim your personal space and get rid of any traces of your ex’s presence. So, box up the “couples” photos on the fridge, ditch the cologne in the bathroom, and give away that case of beer. Removing the relationship reminders should reduce the number of flashbacks you get every day.

Stop obsessing. Psychiatrist Dr. Laura Grashow says it’s not productive to think about what went wrong over and over again because eventually you’ll just convince yourself that they were wrong and you were right. Instead, she suggests finding something constructive from the hurtful things that were said. For example, if they complained that “you never listen,” practice this on your friends: Listen to them for five minutes without interrupting. Eventually, you’ll become comfortable listening to anybody and your next significant other will thank you for it.

Get it off your chest. Take one week – only one – and unload your angst on the people who care about you. Bujan says that most friends can only take one or two heavy-duty conversations. So, consider writing down all your woes on paper. Then crumpling it up and throwing it away. Once your week is up, spare your friends and look for other sources of comfort, like a family member or a therapist.

Hit the gym – twice a day if necessary. Dr. Daniel Amen says that exercise is the best way to feel better naturally because physical activity boosts the brain chemicals that make you feel happy - and releases compounds that kill pain. Even better, you’ll be working on getting healthier and looking better. After all, everyone knows that looking good is the best revenge.

Sunday, January 06, 2008


By Judith and Jim

You can have The New Intimacy in your life. And, it's easier than you

All you have to do is begin practicing the first of these ten steps. When you feel comfortable, add the next one that attracts you most. Before longyou'll notice a difference in your confidence, self-respect, your capacity to give and receive love and, of course, the intimacy that makes it allworthwhile.

See what magic you create!

Step 1: ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS.  Do you have trouble accepting compliments?
Most people do. The first step toward The New Intimacy is to pay attention
to every compliment you receive -- from anyone. A compliment is
love-in-shorthand. Practice accepting compliments with a simple, "Thank
you." Your heart will open, you will begin to feel generous and eager to
give the gift of taking what someone wants to give to you. Then, watch the
world become a place you only imagined was possible.

Step 2: NOTICE DIFFERENCES. Differences hold the key to a richer and more
meaningful life. Our differences are the celebration of all that is
possible, including you.  As you practice the basic truth that -- the other
person is not you -- so that you have to discover who he or she is, you will
move beyond isolation, loneliness and the yearning for connection. The
simple act of paying attention to how different other people are from you
will change your life forever.

Step 3: EXPRESS YOURSELF. No one just like you has ever lived before or
will ever live again. That's much more than a superficial observation. It is
as profound a truth as there is in this life. When you appreciate just how
unique you are, you will understand the importance of never shortchanging
the truth of what you feel, what you believe and what you desire. You will
never pass this way again just as you are. Express yourself. Give your
partner, and yourself, the chance to find out what it is that makes you you.

Step 4: RESERVE JUDGMENT. It's so easy for us to get caught up insisting on
what   we think is right, or sensible, or appropriate. Those are judgments.
When you make them in a knee-jerk fashion, without thinking, without taking
the time to find out if they really apply, you not only wipe out the person
you hurl them at, you sentence yourself to the solitary confinement of being
the way you've always been. If you yearn for more from your life, one of the
simplest ways you can have more is to reserve judgment and let others and
the world become your teacher. When you take the time to reserve judgment,
you will liberate yourself from the solitary confinement of being the way
you've always been.

Step 5: LISTEN ACTIVELY. Talking is easy for most people. Listening is
another   story. To listen actively you have to tune in to your partner's
experience from his or her own point of view. That's the only way you'll
know what's really going on. Otherwise all that happens is you stay stuck in
your own world, waiting for your turn. So, open to a possibility that's
different from your own. You know how boring mutual monologues can be!

Step 6: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. In any relationship, two people are always
teaching   each other exactly how they expect to be treated right from the
first moment. So, you have impact. Every relationship is co-created, that's
the beauty of being with someone. Why waste your time pretending to be
powerless. That's only a game you play with yourself. When you take care
with who you are, you give your partner the opportunity to care for you.

Step 7: DISAGREE.  Can you say "No" when you have to? Or do you keep your
frustrations hidden until you explode? If so, you're being disrespectful of
you and your partner. Differences are bound to rise in any relationship.
They are a chance to define who you are  distinct from your partner. Make a
point of voicing your disagreement. Stop yourself from being invisible.

Step 8: LOVE EVERYDAY. Don't let any day go by without expressing your love
in   some way. It doesn't take much. Just give small kindnesses! Little
gifts, surprise notes, special snuggling, calls to the office, you name it.
These small moments of affection will keep your love alive and open your
conscious creativity to ever more delights. After all, what's the point of
being with someone and not enjoying it!?

Step 9: ASK, ASK, ASK. It's not true that if you have to ask for what you
want it won't
mean as much. That's an adolescent belief. In a real relationship, your
partner can't hear what you're not saying. Trust enough to make yourself
available to the relationship and to getting what you want. When you hold
back and then are disappointed, you only creat resentment.

Step 10: INCLUDE CONFLICT. When two people live together over time,
conflicts are
inevitable. If you deny that fact, you will suffocate the life out of your
relationship. The point is, how can you make them productive? Conflict is
just like the sand in an oyster -- annoying, irritating, but you have to
have it to get the pearl!

Step 11: BE CURIOUS. Genuine curiosity is the finest aphrodisiac there is.
When   your partner wants to know who you really are, the good and the
not-so-good, the whole package, what finer compliment can you ask for? And
when you let your partner in to your thoughts and feelings, what finer gift
can you give in turn?

Step 12: RECEIVE LOVE. Love may not always show up just as you expect. In
fact, it's   unavoidable that your partner will express love is ways you
hadn't anticipated. He  is not you. She is not you. If you only want love to
come the way you want it, you'll only get what you've always had. Real love
is a wonder that will come from beyond your imagination. Open and receive

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Tuesday, January 01, 2008

The Breakup Test

The Breakup Test: 5 Questions to Ask Before Giving 'Em the Boot
By Elina Furman

Is it better to be the breaker-upper or the dumpee? With so much attention being paid to those poor people dumped every year, no one ever takes time to think about what it's like to be the dumper. Hardly an enviable position, the decision to break up with someone can breed feelings of guilt, paralysis and depression.
To alleviate some of this anxiety, here's a list of 5 questions to ask yourself before you give someone the boot.

Question 1: Has There Been a Major Change in My Life?

Relocation, career change, an illness -- any of these factors can trigger problems in a relationship.

Relocation, career change, an illness -- any of these factors can trigger problems in a relationship. If you're stressed out about something, be it a job or family problem, it's all too tempting to generalize these feelings to include your partner. It's very easy to think that if you got out of this relationship you would feel better. In reality, you need to deal with the problem rather than blame it on your partner.

Question 2: What's My Happiness Ratio?
Being blissfully in love with your partner 24/7 is a wonderful concept in theory, but as we all know, real-world relationships rarely live up to these expectations. Many people assume that they have to be 100 percent satisfied with their partners in order to stick with them, but good luck ever finding this perfect scenario!
A better strategy would be to adopt the 80 percent rule. Ask yourself:

Am I satisfied with my partner 80 percent of the time or more? If the answer is yes, then you're working with pretty good odds. If the answer is no, you may want to consider moving on.

Question 3: Is He/She Abusive?
Abusive behavior comes in many forms. There's physical abuse where someone hits, slaps or shoves you. A verbally abusive partner degrades you with harsh words and insults. And the most difficult to identify and pinpoint: psychological abuse. This form of abuse can involve overly controlling behavior, emotional blackmail, and episodes of extreme jealousy. If your partner engages in any of the above behavior, don't just walk -- run from the relationship.

Question 4: Have I Expressed My Frustration?
Many of us think that if our partner was right for us, he/she would be able to understand our needs intuitively without us ever having to communicate. While it would be great if our partners could just read our minds, the truth is that few of us are telepathic.
Good communication is required in every relationship.

So before you give your partner their walking papers, make sure to discuss your doubts and concerns so they have a chance to make it up to you.

So before you give your partner their walking papers, make sure to discuss your doubts and concerns so they have a chance to make it up to you.

Question 5: Am I Willing to Work at It?
Whatever your gripes or complaints, there's one factor that can make or break your union: your mutual desire to work on the relationship. If you're not both committed to improving your quality of life together, there's very little hope for the future.
And remember, actions speak louder than words. If both of you make a concerted effort to work on the relationship and make the necessary changes that are required, there's really no reason to call it quits.