Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Impress Dates with Food

From tesh.com

People Are Trying To Impress Their Dates With The Food They Eat

A new study from Cornell University says that women’s dating habits haven’t changed in decades! Women are still choosing to nibble on vegetables when they’re on a date, because they believe it makes them look more feminine and attractive. It turns out, the opposite is true. When you order a salad and only pick at it, the guy will feel like a slob when he’s plowing through his dinner. In fact, in a study conducted by the University of Toronto, men rated women of normal weight, who ate large meals, as more desirable than those who ate like birds. Why? Because men form an impression about you based on what you eat. If you seem relaxed and like you're enjoying your food, you date will perceive you as more attractive, pleasant and open.

According to the study, men, on the other hand, have changed their dating behavior. Now they’re going for the pasta over the steak, and this is the right move. When a guy plops down and eats something fatty, a girl can’t help but wonder if he eats that way all the time. It crosses her mind that he’ll probably pack on weight, clog his arteries and die early. One thing both sexes agree on: The foods to stay away from. According to the study, everyone said no to garlic and onions, beans, and cabbage.

So you’ve carefully ordered your dinner, making sure that there’s nothing stinky, or messy, or unattractive to eat. Now, how can you tell if the date’s going well? Here’s what you do, according to Dr. David Givens, author of the book Love Signals: Offer her a bite of your entrĂ©e. Dr. Givens says, if she takes the fork from your hand and slides the food onto her own plate that’s bad news. She’s closed off to you. If she takes your fork and takes a bite, good sign. If she lets you feed her, better sign. If she takes a bite and then offers you a bite of her food, bonus points – date #2 is in the bag.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Top 3 dating dealbreakers

from Tesh.com

The Top Three Dating Deal Breakers

Ladies, if you’re in the dating scene, it isn’t just about knowing what to look for in a mate. It’s also about knowing what to stay away from. So we turned to CNN dating columnist, Audrey Irvine, to find out the top three guys that are total dating deal-breakers.

First deal-breaker is the one-upper. This is the guy who always has to top everything you’ve done or every story you tell. If you ran a half marathon, he just finished his third triathlon. If you’re working on your master’s, he’s got a PhD. Irvine says a man like this can get exhausting. His experiences will always be bigger and better than yours. So before you consider seriously dating a one-upper, think about how you’ll feel when you’re celebrating a big work promotion, and he’s already figuring out how to top you!

Next dating deal-breaker is the back-in-the-day Guy. He’s the guy who’s always talking about the touchdown pass he threw in high-school, or reliving moments from his frat-house days. Irvine says there’s nostalgia, and then there’s “get over it already.” So if those memories are ten years old or older, he’s a dealbreaker!

The final dating deal-breaker: The perfect-in-public Guy. The PIP is great when you’re out to dinner with friends, or at the company Christmas party, but he never turns it off. He always has to be the funniest, loudest person in the room, even when it’s just the two of you watching TV. The PIP is masking some deep insecurities, which is why he spends so much time hiding behind his larger-than-life personality. Unless you’re a therapist with some time on your hands leave the PIP for the next girl!

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Monday, December 07, 2009

Dealbreakers 101

Lets talk about some dealbreakers that can make it or break it as far as getting a date, or getting a second date. 

Some of these are my own dealbreakers, but most come from my numerous discussions with you.  Please add your own and lets get the opposite sex educated.

Dealbreakers I have heard from women about men
  1. Guy has bad breathe.-- Bad breathe equals no date, no kiss, or no second date. 
  2. Guy is cheap- Wants to go dutch at Starbucks
  3. Guy looks like he just rolled out of bed and made no effort to get groomed for the date
  4. Guy is rude to the waitstaff at dinner
  5. Guy wears sneakers to a speed dating event
  6. Body odor issues
  7. Poor eye contact
  8. Talks only about himself, not showing any interest in the woman
  9. Has a very small piece of equipment with respect to the male Anatomy
  10. Too much, too soon, too fast.. Guy is talking about marriage and exclusivity after the second date.
  11. Looking for sex way too quickly

What else?

DealBreakers I have heard from Men about Women
  1. Smokers-- Nasty Nasty Nasty.. Did I mention Nasty?
  2. Not thanking the guy at the end of the date for paying for dinner or whatever
  3. Not at least making the fake attempt to pull out the wallet to pay for dinner or drinks.. Most (not all guys) are not really expecting you to pay, but that fake attempt or at least a thank you is nice.
  4. Height-  Most (not all) guys are looking for a woman who is shorter than they are.
  5. Age-  Guys are getting better on this one, but it is still a frequent comment I get as far as dealbreakers
  6. Flakey- She is unreliable and cancels dates at the last minute.
  7. No career ambition-  Wants and expects the man to be the breadwinner
What else?

Tuesday, December 01, 2009

Does your romance have a future?

From Tesh.com

Does Your Budding Romance Have a Future?

So, you’re dating someone you’re totally crazy about! Is this intense attraction you feel for them love - or temporary infatuation? Here’s how to tell whether your budding romance has a future. Ask yourself these questions from eHarmony online.

How much do you know about the other person’s life? Sure, you may know what they do for a living and where they live, but have you met this person’s friends, spent entire weekends together, or been included in each other’s daily lives? The best way to know if it’s love or infatuation is take an honest look at how unified the two of you are. This doesn’t mean just the level at which you’re opening up, but how much your partner is letting you in, too.

Is the feeling mutual? Although YOU may feel that things are going well, your partner may have other ideas. If only one of you is interested in a future together, it’s better to know that before you get in too deep. So, ask. This is a conversation for the two-month mark or so. It’s important to know where you stand as soon as possible so that you can proceed with caution or commitment.

Do you share common life goals, dreams and ambitions? When the newness wears off, you probably won’t want to invest your time, energy and intimacy with someone who doesn’t share a similar vision of the future. So, before you get too involved, discuss things such as your long-term goals and how you feel about kids. Also, find out where each of your careers rank on your lists of priorities, and how similar your ethics and morals are. Yes, this conversation will probably be uncomfortable, but it’s an important discussion to have about three or four months into a budding relationship. Why? Because it cuts down on wasted time and hurt feelings.

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