Monday, November 24, 2008

Why some guys stay single!

The following was posted on Yahoo this week. Let me know what you think.

Do you find yourself wondering why most of your buddies have steady dates, yet you can barely secure a first date, let alone a second (and, playing a regular game of Mahjong and Canasta with your grandparents and their friends doesn't count)? Guys, if so, it's time to ask yourself a few Foxy questions...

Do you... have a problem with eye contact? Even if you love everything about this other person, it won't matter, if you can't take your eyes off their body parts. They'll likely think you're out for one thing, or that you're just kind of creepy. Sure, they might be wearing something revealing, but that's no excuse to stare all night long. Get a grip and get comfortable with eye contact, which creates a much better bond.

Do you... eat like a caveman? Utensils are there for a reason -- so you can eat like a gentleman. Shoveling food into your mouth is not something you should subject your date to. Same goes for talking while chewing. Not only is it unpleasant to watch at a time when your job is to be easy on the eyes, it's a red flag that says you're a little short on self-awareness -- an important characteristic in a mate.

Do you... trim your toenails?  Not that your date will necessarily see your toenails right away, but when they do end up eyeballing them, unkept toenails are a guaranteed huge turnoff. It means you don't take care of yourself, and valuing yourself is an important part of a healthy relationship. Plus, let's not forget the damage they can do to the other person's leg when you're snuggling up on the sofa watching movies.

Do you... order "everything on the side" at a restaurant? In other words, do you order like a girl?  Please don't. Because if your date has to be tortured by, "I'll have the Cobb salad, but no cheese, avocado, or bacon, and dressing on the side, and the pasta, but no oil please, and extra light on the pinenuts," they may be forced to hide under the table or at least wonder what kind of demanding partner you could be. If you have dietary restrictions, do your best, just don't get into what will happen to your belly if you don't follow them.

Do you... assume you're going to strike out? The Secret said it once but we'll say it again: In a lot of ways, you manifest your own destiny. So, if you have lots of thoughts about being unlucky in love, you may be pushing people away in ways you may not even know. If you assume the worst of the world and yourself, spend a few minutes before your date making a mental list of why you're looking for a relationship and why you are an incredible a catch.

Monday, November 17, 2008

NYC Singles- Guys with bad breathe?

At a recent event, this real cute lady came over to chat with me for a bit. She had met a "nice cute guy" and was speaking with him, but needed to step away because he had really bad breathe.

"What the F**K, he is cute and nice, but I couldn't see myself ever kissing him", she said to me.
My advice to her was to give the guy a chance anyway. "Offer him a piece of gum, or a mint." Certain things you cant change, but bad breathe luckily can be changed if the person becomes aware there is a problem.

But that is the problem! We cant usually tell ourselves if our breathe is kicking, and how do you delicately tell someone that their breathe stinks.

Any advice or similar stories?? Please share in the blog.

All I know, is that I am going to carry those listerine strips in my wallet for now on!

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Sunday, November 09, 2008

November 2009- Horoscopes


ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
There will likely be some friction at work concerning secret information that has to do with some one in authority. If you have nothing to do with it, stay out of it, and if you can feel the vibe coming on that something between your close associates just isn’t right, then observe it from a distance and don’t get involved. You will likely feel extra frisky, sexy and passionate during the middle of the month. Toward the end, the mood lightens and people around you want to have more fun. This month, there will be no shortage of sexual tension and opportunities to express it for your sign.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Some one who shares your values will pop up this month and you may feel as if you have met a total kindred spirit. There could be more than one, even. The planetary action also hints at some opportunities to meet people who would present some competition for you in the romance and relationship departments, but you will have the will to stand your ground. Turn your attention toward some one from a far-off land (or some one who was born in a different State), at the end of the month.

GEMINI (May21-June21)
Your opportunities for romance and physical intimacy could be slightly hampered by daily chores that will need attention in the first half of the month. Patiently wait this out until the second half. You can expect intensity to rise in a situation where a person you desire is out of your reach. It is going to be a difficult month for expressing devotion, but everything and anything that you say about your feelings and your desires had better be true. Make sure that you know what you want. Your decisions and intentions could end up being set in stone even if you didn’t want them to be. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

CANCER (June 22-July 23)
The planets are lined up in your sectors of partnership and romance. You should have plenty of run-ins with potential romantic partners this month. You will likely meet someone through a job, or who has a job that is similar to yours. You also might meet some one who needs your help in some way, so if you are the type who likes to help out, get ready to help an attractive person move furniture or something (but it is a good idea not to engage in a relationship that looks like it will be co-dependent. Being an enabler and helping some one are two different things). If there has been an ongoing issue with a partner where details of an agreement needed to be ironed out, you will come very close to finishing the task at the end of this month.

LEO (July 23- Aug 22)
The first third of the month and the last third of the month look like serious times where you will need to attend to situations at home and mundane tasks, but the middle of the month is where all of the romantic action takes place. Shared assets are a pain in the rear end, most likely. If you are not currently sharing assets with some one then you will likely be looking into a venture that would combine your assets with those of another person. You can be sure that a romantic pre-Thanksgiving interlude would be satisfying. Help out a loved one toward the end of the month when he or she seeks out your advice, or a shoulder to lean on.

VIRGO (Aug 23- Sept 22)
Talk it up with a dark-haired, mysterious person this month. He or she can give you insight into what it is that you really want. The person might not stick around very long, but he or she will be very useful in teaching you something about yourself. It is likely that if an attraction begins this month, it won’t be a long relationship, but it will be intense and passionate. Get ready for a very pleasant event toward the end of the month that is directly centered in your romance sector, and brings something to you that you have long awaited. Remember though, that it is often better to have quality than quantity. Be Thankful for what you do have this Thanksgiving because you have some very good things in your life.

LIBRA (Sept 23- Oct 23)
Most of your partnership action is taking place in the areas that rule your domestic situation. People you live with may have a lucky streak going on in November. Family matters might have to take precedence over socializing and dating but that is ok. If you are already attached, you will be very busy with your partner making sure that you have finances in order and moving around anything that you have to in order to create security. Over all, it is a busy month. All Libras have the opportunity to meet some one who is fun and frivolous during the last third of the month and this person really tickles your fancy.

SCORPIO (Oct 24- Nov 21)
If you have been looking for a, “partner in crime”, so to speak, you have an excellent chance of finding that person this November! (Refrain from committing actual crimes, please). A hard-headed but shrewd partner is what you need and someone like this would bring some excitement into your life. A current partner or one that you meet this month might have different ideas about settling down than you do. The chemistry between you will be great, but you will have to decide if you want to move on or take a wait-and-see approach. New acquaintances and old friends will be very uptight about money so prepare for them to seek out your advice this month.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22- Dec 21)
You need to brush up on your communication skills regarding money and assets this month, Sag. You may disagree with close partners about finances and you will uncover some spending issues that you didn’t know about previously. Toward the end of the month your ideas will be very important to the people around you. Any questions you had about the motives of partners and love interests are likely to be answered at this time. The relationship ball is in your court during the last third of the month and you will be getting some kind of praise for how you have been handling partnership situations before December rolls around.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22- Jan 19)
Venus is in your sign this month, Cap, and it joins Jupiter. Your attractiveness and luck should sky-rocket. You also have a shrewdness about you now that can be used to get a person, or even groups of people on your side. You are seeing right through their motives so you can almost predict what they will say and do. The first third of the month you will get a little bit of opposition from your partners and people you are interested in. The middle of the month is when you will have the power to make people eat their words, or at least to let them know that you see what they are trying to pull. The last third of the month you will have some personal business to attend to, but you will also have won over some important allies and maybe even get a reward for your hard work.

AQUARIUS (Jan 20- Feb 20)
Your reputation as a go-to guy or girl is in the making this month so you had better be ready to reap the benefits of it. Your natural leadership qualities will attract people who are a bit more attachable and a bit less objective than you are, so choose your partners carefully. There might even be a jealousy issue involving some one you meet (the other party, not you, is likely to be the one showing the jealousy). Your wallet should fare better than the wallets of most people you know this month. Keep your secrets to yourself, watch your back, don’t gossip, and make sure your actions are on the up-and-up. A little excitement on the relationship front is on the way but you want it to be a positive experience for everyone involved. Connect with loved ones and find new friends who live far away.

PISCES (Feb 21- March 20)
You will feel even more idealistic about love this month than usual. You are a deep and emotional person to begin with, and you will trust that the world will bring people together just perfectly. If you don’t already believe in this sort of fate, then start believing in it now. Your need to have a perfect union is strong and you have to have faith that everything in the relationship and partnership areas of your life will turn out just right. Pisces occasionally gets criticized for having blinders on and for being in its own world; but sometimes a little blind faith goes a long, long way. One sign gets the benefit of having the planets of luck and love combine in its sector of dreams, hopes, and wishes for the next several weeks. Tag, Pisces, you’re it.