Sunday, April 22, 2007

If a Guy Does Something you Don't Understand, Blame it on his Brain(From

If a Guy Does Something you Don't Understand, Blame it on his Brain(From

Ladies, if your guy ever does something you just don’t understand, blame it on his brain. After all, there are big differences between the male and female brain that can explain why men and women feel, think, and act so differently. So take the advice of Netscape .com’s relationship expert Laura Snyder and forgive him when he behaves in one of these typically male ways:

Like when he can’t talk about his feelings. One scientific theory claims that men have a smaller cluster of nerves in the area that bridges the left brain, which controls language, and the right brain, which controls feelings. Since women have a bigger bridge, they can put emotions into words quickly, while guys struggle.

Another thing to blame on the male brain: he doesn’t understand what annoys you. Men tend to compartmentalize things. So to him, sweet-talking the waitress has nothing to do with his feelings for you. He doesn’t get it when something that’s meaningless to him makes you mad.
Also, he doesn’t notice details. Since a man’s brain takes in less sensory detail, he’s not as aware of his environment. That could explain why he doesn’t notice that you cut your hair or lost five pounds.

And one more male behavior you can blame on the brain: he never says “I Love You.” On top of lacking communication skills, testosterone makes him more likely to show his feelings through gifts or favors, like opening the door or fixing your car. For guys, actions really do speak louder than words.

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Too Much, Too Soon, Too Fast

Too Much, Too soon, Too Fast?
Chuck is a very "nice guy" (ut oh, the killer words) who wants to be in a serious relationship. He meets Mary at an event and they really seem to hit it off. Afterwards, they are dancing a little and I see them start to kiss. Ok, so far, so good, right? I hear through the grape vine that they are going out on a date soon. Hmm, maybe this will be another good success story?

A few weeks later, I ran into Mary and asked how things were going with Chuck. "Not so good, actually we don't speak any more." What happened, it looked like you both were really into each other? "He just came on too strong, calling me five times a day, texting me constantly. When I told him I would call him back, he called me back a few hours later, not giving me the chance."

Everybody says they hate the games, and I certainly do not condone them either. However, a little mystery is not a bad thing. Showing all of your cards too soon, and coming on too strong can turn a lot of people off.

What do you think?