Saturday, November 24, 2007

Power Words in Dating


The way to a woman’s heart is through her ears! Meaning – what you say can have a huge impact on how a woman feels about you. So guys, here are some power words to use in common dating scenarios. These will help you woo the woman you have a crush on. We got this from several psychologists interviewed by Rodale publishing.

So let’s say you’re asking her out for the first time. You might typically say, “Want to go out to dinner on Friday night?” Instead say this: “Want to go out for Thai food Friday night?” What’s the big deal about mentioning Thai food? You’re creating an experience she can visualize. So unlike the standard “Wanna have dinner?” – you’re engaging her imagination and putting her in the moment. She’ll see you two sharing Pad Thai and be more apt to say ‘yes.’

Okay – so she said yes to dinner and now you’re at the restaurant and the entrees have arrived. You’d like to offer her a piece of your meal because it’s delicious – but also because her accepting a taste means psychologically that she’s accepting you in a way. So normally you’d say, “Want some pasta?” Instead say, “Want a taste of my pasta?” It works because words that describe actions or senses make the offer more appealing. So it’s not “Want a spoonful of my dessert?” It’s “Want a bite of my cheesecake?” You hear commercials use this type of “active” and “sensory” language all the time.

The date is over, it went well, and you want to secure date #2. In the past, you might have said, “Are you free next Saturday. There’s a concert in the park.” Instead, this time say, “I’d love to see you again. Maybe we could we try getting together next Saturday because I have tickets for a concert.” You may think that proposal sounds wimpy because you said “maybe we could try” but what those words do is give the woman a chance to say ‘yes’ without feeling pressured. Saying “because” – as in “because I have tickets” is the magic word. According to psychologists, people agree 66% percent more often when they hear a phrase with “because” in it. Why? Because people like hearing the reasoning behind the request.

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Liz said...

Bottom line--use any psychology you want...when a woman is interested...there is no need for play on words. And when a man is confident...he will not use words such as "try" or "perhaps"--he will be more assertive and take the initiative...and suggest plans, rather than request that a woman spend time with him. That simple. P.S. Non of that works if you meet a woman - and call her a week later fellas! You need to strike when the iron is hot as they say. Otherwise, you are on the sideline - watching the parade go by. I guess - I am wooed by men that take a stand and take me, that's sexy. Not some guy that is going to analyze every verb and adjective he uses in "trying" to entice me to try his entree.

"Every man has a chance to sweep mostly any woman off her feet...he just needs the right broom!"

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't want someone to say YO you wanna get dinner? but mentioning where we are going for sinner doesn't change my thoughts on whether or not I am going to go out with you