Saturday, November 24, 2007

Older Women, Younger Men

Over the past few newsletters, we have revisited the issue of having an event for Older Women and Younger Men (Men 25-35 and Women 35-45) and the flip side of an event for Older Men and Younger Women (Men 35-45 and Women 25-35). The results are in:

A) Older Women, Younger Men: About 7 or 8 men and several women responded that they would be interested in an event for Women ages 35-45 and Men 25-35. The results warrant further research into such an event.

B) Older Men, Younger Women: About 57 men and 0 Women responded that they would be interested in an event for Women ages 25-35 and Men 35-45. Based on these results, this event will not take place.

Bottom Line: Although more men seem to be open to the idea of dating an older woman, the vast majority still want to date younger women.

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------The following article was in the NY Post last Week


October 23, 2007 -- SOME call them sugar daddies. (Others just call them dirty old men.)

But scientists say older men who shack up with much younger women are actually the answer to longevity. Who knew?

According to a new study conducted by Shripad Tuljapurkar and Cedric Puleston of Stanford University, when men mate with women who are eight or more years younger, it increases the life span of both sexes over time.

Sound confusing? Here's the deal:

Scientifically speaking, once people can no longer reproduce, they cease to have a biological purpose. For women, the "wall of death" age, as evolutionary theorists so cheerfully call it, is about 50. But men - and here's where the testosterone kicks in - can reproduce into their late 70s, so long as they have good genes and, well, good equipment.

So, when an older man mates with a young woman, he's essentially postponing death. And his long-life genes - you know he's got them if he can have kids at that age - get passed on to his children.

"Men who have children at a late age help to make natural selection work to protect human survival, because they are passing on more genes. It's just the way we've evolved as humans," Puleston says.

So old men making babies may bolster human longevity in the long term - but what's the immediate excuse for the ancient-man-trophy-wife match? According to Dr. Mark Liponis, author of "UltraLongevity: The Seven-Step Program for a Younger, Healthier You," young women can give a much-needed boost to their older partners' immune systems.

"Being close to someone makes your immune systems very alike," he says. "And an older man's worn-down, tired immune system will improve simply by being in contact with a younger person who is more energetic and healthier."

Still, a young wife offers more than mere health benefits.

"An older man/younger woman couple is the best kind, and more divorced men are choosing women 10 or 20 years younger the second time around, because they can," says R. Don Steele, author of "How To Date Young Women for Men Over 35."

"But it's important to keep in mind that it's beneficial to both the man and the women." Steele says that women want a wise, settled and rich man, while men want impressionable and youthful women - it's a two-way street.

"He offers security - and she boosts him up, improving his mood and blood pressure, helping him to live longer."

While some women may disagree with the anti-feminist tendencies of such a match, others might argue that it defines feminism.

"Women are choosing the men they want to marry - they aren't being selected," says Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and author of "Why We Love."

"When choosing an older man, she is getting someone who is settled, has a network and money and can take care of her. Plus, if she has children with him, her children will acquire some of the genes to his longevity."


Anonomous said...

In the last issue we revisited the topic of Older Women wanting to date younger men. (If you missed the discussion, you can see it here) One of our female readers suggested an event for women ages 35-45 and men ages 25-35. She called herself a "cougar." Our past attempts to suggest an Older Woman/Younger Man event produced an almost ZERO response from the guys. This time, we had about eight men who responded that they WOULD be interested in such an event and many more women who expressed the same. Hmm, perhaps philosophies are changing and Demi/Ashton is not so far fetched. I may try to have such an event in the next few months after doing some more field research. I will report the results in upcoming newsletters once completed.

To examine both sides, lets look at the opposite. Would you be interested in an event for Women who are 25-35 and Men 35-45? Please email me at and specify your age, gender, and location.

Anonymous said...

I enjoyed the article. I'm a 25 year old woman dating a man who is 28 years older than I am. I found some positive reassurance with the last post. Six months ago I was dating a 23 year old man who didn't challenge me (like many of the younger men I date) and treated me like dirt. Now I couldn't be happier. I feel complete, safe and have age and maturity to thank.

Anonymous said...

Sadly, my fiance of 6 years left me for a younger woman claiming she was more fun and sexy, etc... I was heart broken. But surprisingly, when their relationship ended, he came back to me telling me he loved me.
I took him back because I loved him too. But, now I am obsessed with articles such as this one because I know that he really wants to be with a younger woman. He is into longevity and so am I. But, as I age, I am so insecure now.
Fearful of aging.