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Hi, I am a 39 year old male with a real tricky problem. Here it goes. I went on a very nice date recently. We talked for hours. The conversation was great, and we seemed to be having a really nice time. She had beautiful eyes, was smart, sexy and seemed to be a lot of fun. Just one thing!! She had a little bit of a mustache. It was bleached and all, but it still totally grossed me out. Ok, I know I am not perfect and have my own flaws, so I know I shouldnt not want to date this woman because of this. But I could not ever see kissing her! So what do I do here? I know I cant tell her to wax it since I really do not even know her to well. Even if I did know her, just dont think it would be the appropriate thing to do.
Its tough being the messenger, especially if your expecting to get shot. I had a similiar experience where the male had a severe bad breath problem, likely periodontal. He was well groomed and very likeable in many ways. The part that got me is that he mentioned the girls weren't interested in more dancing with him. It was a singles event. It was not because of his looks or mannerism. During the course of our future conversation there were differences between us; therefore i felt we werent a great match. At that point i had already given him my business card. He did call for a future date. I couldnt let this nice guy be brushed aside because of something he probably didnt realize was keeping women away from him.... Well Im still here & he was a bit surprised & in denial, but i do believe he probably followed up on it. And i think i was being a better friend then some of the people he thought were his friends.
I don't think there is a good way to say any of these delicate things face to face in the early stages of dating. I am a 39 year old woman and I had been emailing and chatting with a great guy, we had a great first (lunch) date and then scheduled a dinner date. Dinner was great, we had a ton of fun, lots of laughs and then he kissed me and it was the strangest kissing experience I have ever had. I tried to "gentle" up the encounter, prompting hims with my lips, but he was stiff lipped and aggressive and in the end I thanked him for dinner and knew I could not date him, but there was no way to let him know the problem. For your mustache lady's future success you can wait a reasonable period of time and find some way, maybe an article in a magazine, a link to a website, or even a link to this page, to let her know what the turn off was, so she can address it if she wishes. The probable truth is that there isn't really a way to tell a "new" person the thing or things about them that repulse you, nor is there a reason to, because revulsion does not fade.
I don't think there is a good way to say any of these delicate things face to face in the early stages of dating. I am a 39 year old woman and I had been emailing and chatting with a great guy, we had a great first (lunch) date and then scheduled a dinner date. Dinner was great, we had a ton of fun, lots of laughs and then he kissed me and it was the strangest kissing experience I have ever had. I tried to "gentle" up the encounter, prompting hims with my lips, but he was stiff lipped and aggressive and in the end I thanked him for dinner and knew I could not date him, but there was no way to let him know the problem. For your mustache lady's future success you can wait a reasonable period of time and find some way, maybe an article in a magazine, a link to a website, or even a link to this page, to let her know what the turn off was, so she can address it if she wishes. The probable truth is that there isn't really a way to tell a "new" person the thing or things about them that repulse you, nor is there a reason to, because revulsion does not fade.
I think it is more important to look at the qualities the person has either got to have or is missing. Are they decent, loyal, trustworthy? The mustache girl could be fixed, it's only cosmetic. The guy with the bad breath, only superficial. You can't "fix" an immoral person no matter how perfect their skin or breath.
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Hi, I am a 39 year old male with a real tricky problem. Here it goes. I went on a very nice date recently. We talked for hours. The conversation was great, and we seemed to be having a really nice time. She had beautiful eyes, was smart, sexy and seemed to be a lot of fun. Just one thing!! She had a little bit of a mustache. It was bleached and all, but it still totally grossed me out. Ok, I know I am not perfect and have my own flaws, so I know I shouldnt not want to date this woman because of this. But I could not ever see kissing her! So what do I do here? I know I cant tell her to wax it since I really do not even know her to well. Even if I did know her, just dont think it would be the appropriate thing to do.
Its tough being the messenger, especially if your expecting to get shot. I had a similiar experience where the male had a severe bad breath problem, likely periodontal. He was well groomed and very likeable in many ways. The part that got me is that he mentioned the girls weren't interested in more dancing with him. It was a singles event. It was not because of his looks or mannerism. During the course of our future conversation there were differences between us; therefore i felt we werent a great match. At that point i had already given him my business card. He did call for a future date. I couldnt let this nice guy be brushed aside because of something he probably didnt realize was keeping women away from him.... Well Im still here & he was a bit surprised & in denial, but i do believe he probably followed up on it. And i think i was being a better friend then some of the people he thought were his friends.
Hmm, not sure how I would handle such a sensitive topic. If you tell her, you will piss her off. Somehow she needs to find out anonomously
I don't think there is a good way to say any of these delicate things face to face in the early stages of dating. I am a 39 year old woman and I had been emailing and chatting with a great guy, we had a great first (lunch) date and then scheduled a dinner date. Dinner was great, we had a ton of fun, lots of laughs and then he kissed me and it was the strangest kissing experience I have ever had. I tried to "gentle" up the encounter, prompting hims with my lips, but he was stiff lipped and aggressive and in the end I thanked him for dinner and knew I could not date him, but there was no way to let him know the problem.
For your mustache lady's future success you can wait a reasonable period of time and find some way, maybe an article in a magazine, a link to a website, or even a link to this page, to let her know what the turn off was, so she can address it if she wishes. The probable truth is that there isn't really a way to tell a "new" person the thing or things about them that repulse you, nor is there a reason to, because revulsion does not fade.
I don't think there is a good way to say any of these delicate things face to face in the early stages of dating. I am a 39 year old woman and I had been emailing and chatting with a great guy, we had a great first (lunch) date and then scheduled a dinner date. Dinner was great, we had a ton of fun, lots of laughs and then he kissed me and it was the strangest kissing experience I have ever had. I tried to "gentle" up the encounter, prompting hims with my lips, but he was stiff lipped and aggressive and in the end I thanked him for dinner and knew I could not date him, but there was no way to let him know the problem.
For your mustache lady's future success you can wait a reasonable period of time and find some way, maybe an article in a magazine, a link to a website, or even a link to this page, to let her know what the turn off was, so she can address it if she wishes. The probable truth is that there isn't really a way to tell a "new" person the thing or things about them that repulse you, nor is there a reason to, because revulsion does not fade.
suck it up dude. unless it's worse then your mustache...
I think it is more important to look at the qualities the person has either got to have or is missing. Are they decent, loyal, trustworthy? The mustache girl could be fixed, it's only cosmetic. The guy with the bad breath, only superficial. You can't "fix" an immoral person no matter how perfect their skin or breath.
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