Thursday, January 22, 2009

Lipstick at the table

Ok ladies, here is a question for you to answer.

Dear Jay

I recently went to dinner with a good female friend. We are just friends, but I k now she knows that I really want more. She is very friendly and feels comfortable around me and can sometimes be touchy feely (for example, my hair was standing up and she played with it to get it looking right).

After dinner, she reapplied her lipstick and puckered up her lips. Was that any type of sign that maybe she wanted me to kiss her at some point?

After dinner, we went for a walk and she grabbed my arm and we walked arm in arm for a while. Again, this was somewhat unusual behavior from the past. We always had a playful friendship, but it was always me who would have to put my arm around her.

Once again, am I reading too much into this?

A clueless guy.


Anonymous said...

Dear Clueless,

Wow, I can't believe that you're really that clueless! Of course she likes you! The more "touchy-feely" we women are with you guys, the more we are trying to "tell" you just how much we are "into you", especially if we apply lipstick right in front of you! Let me give you a tip....when she least expects it, grab her around the waist, pull her in very close, then go in for the kiss. Take her breath away!!!

Anonymous said...

Okay, if you are good friends than just ASK her if she is interested in being more than friends. If she says "NO" and continues to be flirty and touchy/feely then she's not being fair to you. And if she says "Yes" then THAT is your sign to kiss her!! :)

Funny thing is, I love lipstick and always re-apply it at the end of dinner. But actually If I am on a date and I DON'T reapply my lipstick - it means I want to be kissed.

Rememeber, communication is key - don't waste time trying to figure out signals that may or may not be there.

Anonymous said...

I believe she likes that you find her attractive- so she wants to look good. It stems from the attention you are giving her. I do not think it is a subtle hint that she wanted you to kiss her. I would say if she was delaying when you were saying good night to her, then yes, she might have wanted you to kiss her. I think she is comfortable with your friendship. I would put lipstick on in front of my friends- but on a date with someone I am interested in? No. I would have excused myself to go to the ladies room. It is not proper etiquette to apply lipstick at the table. She is not caring about the impression you have of her.

Anonymous said...

As a female, and this may be playing devils advocate- but if I like a man in more then just a friend way, I would never apply lipstick right in front of him I would go to the rest room and apply it. If he was just a friend I would not really care if he watched me "make myself pretty."
Lip gloss/chapstick is a whole different story tho.

Anonymous said...

So why is lip gloss a totally different story?

Anonymous said...

I have to agree, lipstick at the table means she is "comfortable" with you and probably not looking to be kissed, just wants to reapply in front of a friend. The same way she would if you were her girlfriend. Some people are just touchy feely people. How is she with other friends(girl or guy). It's likely she's the same. Ask her if she'd like to go on a DATE. Specify date and see what her reaction is. If she says your just friends, then you're just friends.

pam said...

i think u are reading too much into the lipstick my reapplies lipstick after every meal u need some communication to see how she feels before u waste your time and look like a fool

Anonymous said...


How old are you? I don't think that applying the lipstick in front of you means anything, other than she is comfortable with you.
She may be interested. How long have you known this girl? How long has she been touchy, feely with you? Think about it. Has her behavior changed towards you recently? Maybe, she is developing feelings for you. The only way to find out is to ask her.

Good Luck