Monday, November 17, 2008

NYC Singles- Guys with bad breathe?

At a recent event, this real cute lady came over to chat with me for a bit. She had met a "nice cute guy" and was speaking with him, but needed to step away because he had really bad breathe.

"What the F**K, he is cute and nice, but I couldn't see myself ever kissing him", she said to me.
My advice to her was to give the guy a chance anyway. "Offer him a piece of gum, or a mint." Certain things you cant change, but bad breathe luckily can be changed if the person becomes aware there is a problem.


But that is the problem! We cant usually tell ourselves if our breathe is kicking, and how do you delicately tell someone that their breathe stinks.


Any advice or similar stories?? Please share in the blog.


All I know, is that I am going to carry those listerine strips in my wallet for now on!

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9 comments:

Anonymous said...

I cant say that this has ever happened to me but, I do know a guy who is a really good friend and is an excellent catch but constantly complains about not being able to have steady relationships and or meet quality women. A mutual friend and myself agreed that he has chronically bad breath. She approached him on the subject and as we expected he became very defensive and exclaims that he is always aware of his breath and chews gum if need be. I said to her that there is the possibility of him having halitosis. He goes to the dentist for regular visits and they haven't said anything to him about it either. Needless to say we are puzzled.

Anonymous said...

Wow...that's a tough one...I can't think of a delicate way to let someone know he is not knicknamed "Hal" for any other reason, but that he has cornered the market for Halitosis! LOL

Actually bad breathe is an indicator of poor health, like gum disease. Such matters are so sensitive, as bad body odor is. But other than offer someone a few Altoids, not just one?! LOL...that will only mask the issue short-term.

I am truly lost here. I know if it was a girl with bad breath--the guy would simply "not call"! That is your typical move when a man becomes uninterested for the slightest minuscule reason...they do the typical Whodini Act! Rather cowardly...but then again, it's not up to a person who barely knows someone to address such matters. People need to take responsibility for their health and appearance and everything else that comes with that. Right? Otherwise, suffer the consequences...and answer to the name "Hal"!

Anonymous said...

it is an absolute turn off. I recently met someone from a dating website and as soon as we came face to face, I caught a whiff and simply could not get past it!

Anonymous said...

On the CBS TV show, The Doctors, they discussed the issue of bad breath. Of course, we all need to visit a dentist regularly, floss our teeth daily and brush 2-3 times a day. I always let my date know that I am careful about dental hygiene (hint, hint) and I chew gum and offer it.

However, they said on the TV show that it is often caused by bacteria accumulating on the tongue and you need to literally scrape the bacteria off the tongue. This is the only way some people can cure their haliotosis. So, if the dental hygiene discussion and the gum does not work, mention the TV show and suggest going online to "TheDoctorsTV.com".

Anonymous said...

MAN, THIS STORY DEFINITELY HIT HOME.....I BROKE OFF MY ENGAGEMENT BECAUSE HE JUST WOULDNT ACCEPT THAT HE HAD A SH*T SANDWICH FOR BREAKFAST/LUNCH& FREAKIN' DINNER!!!

HE WAS DEFENSIVE, OBNOXIOUS AND DOWNRIGHT RUDE ABOUT IT....

HERE'S A TIP FOR ANYONE....

IF YOU ARE OFFERED ANYTHING LIKE A MINT OR A PIECE OF GUM YOU MUST ACCEPT IT GLADLY!!! IT'S 99.999% A REALLY POLITE HINT ABOUT YOUR STANK BREATH!

Liz said...

I agree...if a person has such an offensive stench going on---whether it be from their mouth, or their body...they need to suffer the consequences...and stay Quarantined! LOL. We are not children here. As an adult, it's all about personal hygiene. If a person is not on top of his health, it speaks volumes about his carelessness about other areas in his life. When a person is in the dating pool, they should be putting their "best foot forward"...not their dragon breath! LOL

Jeff Magic- Dating Coach said...

Jeff Magic Dating Coach said...
Jeff magic dating coach says...

Bad breath can be a deal breaker for sure when trying to find a mate. It is so unattractive. I've been on dates myself with very extremely attractive women with amazing personalities, and they had all the wonderful qualities I look for in a woman, except for one……. HORRIBLE Breath.

If you can't kiss a person, you can't date them. If you think bad breath might be slowing down your love life, you may suffer from Halitosis, a condition that causes chronic bad breath.

Some other possible causes are as follows:
• stomach problems
• not flossing regularly
• not brushing your tongue till it's pink(or almost)
Eating garlic, fetta cheese or onions before a first, second or third date can definitely contribute to not getting a return phone call. As it is, both parties are on thin Ice when first dating. You want to seek and destroy, as many first date deal breakers as you possibly can.

If you must indulge in any of these bad breath makers, make sure you have a mint in your mouth the at all times. They also sell pills at any pharmacy that help your stomach and will keep your breath fresh. Take one of those little guys 1 hour before your date.

If you're not sure if it's your breath that is the problem with your love life, ask a friend, and tell he or she to be totally honest with you. Look your friend right in the eyes, and say you honestly won't be offended. You need to know the truth! Let them know, that they will actually be helping you.

If your bad breath persist after some of these remedies, you could have a cavity that is harboring nasty bacteria or some other tooth or gum problem. Time to see the dentist. Don't be scared, it's really not that bad.

If you've done your homework and you are sure your breath is in check, it could be your behavior, dressing for your dates, or a myriad of other reasons. Best bet is to learn to develop self-awareness, and you'll be on your way to getting your love life together and finding that special guy or gal.

Jeff Magic *wink*

Jeff Magic Dating Coach said...

PS

Ps- If you get your breath in check, and still have trouble, it might be that you need to up your kissing skills (lots of potential mates judge you on your kissing skills on the first date)

My ex-girlfriend and I actually practiced kissing till we got it right. We had such different styles that it didn't work at first. I was bold and said "We don't kiss the same, let's practice till we get it right". She was all for it, and it turned out to be fun.

Great kissing tip: always air on the conservative side when kissing….kiss slow(especially at first) and use very little tongue.

Anonymous said...

I dated a man for over 5 yrs. When we first started dating he had the most aweful bad breath. I always held my breath when we were close. Couple of weeks into daying I told him and he did the mouthwash and mints but it did not help. He finally paid a visit to the doctor who told him he had to visit the dentist. After several visits to the dentist he never had bad breath again. His family & friends thanked me for sticking with him and being truthful because they never had the courage to do it. My advice, if you really like him be a friend first and tell him about it. He will take it from there.