Sunday, June 18, 2006

Kiss Test

“How To Tell If She’s Ready To Be Kissed” (By David DeAngelo)
Disclaimer: I did not write this.

I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.
I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice...” but I didn't know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn't get another chance.

Here's what I do now:

If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.

If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.

By using “The Kiss Test” I've been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she's ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out...

15 comments:

saundra said...

I had to laugh about this gentleman's approach. I am a young woman who, due to an autoimmune disorder, wears a wig. I would be horrified if this man went to touch my hair! LOL. I always find that the best approach is to just ask a woman, "Would it be allright if I kiss you?"

saundra said...

I had to laugh about this gentleman's approach. I am a young woman who, due to an autoimmune disorder, wears a wig. I would be horrified if this man tried to touch my hair -LOL! I always find that men pick up on your signals and I have to asy that the best approach is to just ask, "Would it be allright if I kiss you?"

single woman said...

Watch carefully, learn about body-language... it will help you to find the right moment!

Chloe said...

Ask a woman if it would be alright?! What a way to kill the night...girls! No...if a man is confident enough, and pays attention...he will seize the moment and risk the slight chance of rejection. There's nothing more sexier to me than a guy that is willing, ready and able to go out on a limb. You live once fellas...make that move. Haste makes waste!
-Chloe

Anonymous said...

I agree. Don't ask a women if its all right. YUCK! What a turn off. Study the woman's body language. Is she looking at your lips? Is she touching your hand when you make her laugh? If you really have no clue (body language, flirting), most likely she doesn't want it. And guess what? If she really does want the kiss, and you don't do it, she probably will. That might make her like you more.

The Other Charlie said...

On the kiss test.
I don't know if this test is actually true? The only thing one can tell from the post is that the man put alot of thought into kissing a woman which is a really good thing. If it works for you man keep doing it. I just make the move and get the feedback good or bad. The lady will let you know and knowing how she feels about you is good especially sooner than later. P.S. I really dig that Chloe's mind I'd like to meet her.

Bunny said...

Hey Jay, there was this one particular fella that took the " KISS TEST" to a new level. The evening started out fine in the beginning. It was only our second date in a group setting. We were all seated at a table at a pub and he glanced at me first and proceeded to touch my hairs on top and asked if I minded his touching my hair? I responded," not now, later". I thought he was rather presumptous in assuming it was okay, at Least, wait until the 3rd date. I assume he must have been reading a lot about the "KISS TEST". Later on as the evening ended and he drove me home in front of my house, he proceeded to continue... only this time he decided to kick it up a few million notches. He was on a marathon cleaning feast. He was using my crowning glory as a Golden Rag tossing those hairs all over the place. I couldnot help myself and did everything I could to contain and refrain from blurting out, "WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU DOING?" and proceeded to laugh continuously non-stop... Poor Guy. Perhaps, he liked playing with my hairs cause he didn't have much of his own. I will never truly know. Anyway, Guys don't take everything literally that you read. This was one experience I will never FORGET!!!! LOL!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

uumm what do you do if the girl feels your moving too fast ..she may feel uncomfortable and want the date to end you body language and don't go completely by how she reacts to the hair feel i should know i'm a girl

sweetie pie said...

woah...buddy, watch ur advice b4 u give it out to the rest of the population. just because she lets you touch her hair...doesn't automatically mean she's holding up a neon sign saying "plant one on me." you cannot create a general rule on when all women want to be kissed. Every one of us ladies is different.so why dont you get a bit more expirience b4 becoming mr. macho.

frank said...

haha, I love when women tell men what they should do. It *never* matches what women really want from men. ("Why can't I find a nice guy?")

It's a fair point to say that no one approach should be categorically and blindly followed. What this test does is provide feedback as to whether she's receptive or not to your advances, so that you're not taking a blind risk. There are many ways to get that feedback. Even then, a kiss will still be a risk. That's what makes it fun to try. :)

Anonymous said...

Sorry, but it sounds kind of creepy to me. And I agree with Chloe and others...asking just kills everything.

a guy said...

this is easy.
this dude is just doing 3 basic steps involving sending and receiving "secret messages" in body language.
1) touching her to see if she is comfortable with the proximity, nothing serious, just the hair.
2) looking at her eyes and lips is straight up telling her what you want.
3) then gauge her reaction. she knows you want to kiss her, but you never said it, so you didn't cross the line. now, if you are still touching her hair she can brush you away, if shes not liking what you are proposing, and its not rude or disturbing to the evening in any way because technically nothing happened.
or if she flows with it, go for the gold

its so logical, i do similar stuff with dates all the time, it wonderful because it takes no words and if the takes you up on your subtle offer you will seem like a pro because you knew what she wanted without asking.

Anonymous said...

Just watch enough movies. Actors take direction and make the "right" moves. What is better than that? Here's a great one: "Play it Again, Sam." A real lesson in getting it on, and it will answer all your questions about if and when. But don't get too distracted by the hilarity--it's a Woody Allen/Herb Ross film.

Stefan said...

@ Saundra

No disrespect to you, but your doing a fine job of screwing men up with advice like that. I learned the heard way that asking for permission to get a kiss is the surest way to sabotage yourself. Listen to DeAngelo's advice guys!

Reject the Disney Prince charming stigma! :)

Anonymous said...

I realize this thread is really old but I don't care.

Never ask for permission for a kiss - that is totally lame. But if you must feel the need to ask permission here is a line that I have used to great success.

First get her attention, look her in the eyes and say:
"Pardon me, Earthling...May I obtain a saliva sample?"