Talk about protection

There are two types of protection:

First off, lets talk about your screen name. If you are using your full name as part of your email address (example- Joan.Smith@yahoo.com), please consider making up a separate email address when attending singles events. There is no need to give out more information than is necessary when first meeting someone.

Second area of protection is yep, you guessed it, Sex. I was talking to a male friend (we will call him Bob) a about a woman he met on something called Tagged. She was from Arizona and Bob lives in Brooklyn, and he flew out to stay with her for a week. When I asked Bob how the trip went, he said "It was ok, she thought I was too feminine for her, and it looks like it will just be a friend thing."

So asked Bob where he stayed when he was in Arizona, and he said "I stayed at her house. She had a small apartment so I slept in the same bed with her." Hmm, so of course I needed to ask if anything happened and he said "Yes, we had sex. It wasn't very good because I was nervous."

Bob was a little down because things didn't work out with this gal, so I tried to cheer him up and said, "hey, no biggie. Look at it as a vacation. You got to see a new town, meet some new people, and had some "fun"...As long as you were safe, it's all good." He responded that "nope, I wasn't safe. she is clean. She has two kids and her place was immaculate. I met her mom, when I was there."

I said "Bob, wtf is wrong with you? She is clean because she has two kids and you met her mother and her place is immaculate!! What the heck does that mean. How do you didn't get a disease? And how do you know you did not get her pregnant?" Bob responded "she told me she had her tubes tied."
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Hey, I am no saint (although I am told that I look like one), but guys, just think with the right head before you do something and be safe. For all we know, Bob could not only have a nice new disease, but he could be a daddy soon, and doesn't even know it.

When you are not interested........

The last time I had spoken with Jennifer, she told me she had been on a few dates with a guy she had recently met. I said "hey Jennifer, how are things going with the guy you told me about"? Her response was:


"I haven't spoken to him since the last date. It is so annoying. If he wasn't interested, I wish he would have just told me, instead of just disappearing and never contacting me again."
Yep, I admit it, I have done the same thing. Gone out on a few dates with someone and when their was no chemistry, just never called again. But what is the right way, or is their a right way (protocol) to handle it. If you have been dating for a while, then yes, I think their needs to be contact to let the other person know that it is not going anywhere.


But what about if you have dated 3 times or less and are not interested? Do you just not contact the person at all, let them know by email or text, or pick up the phone and tell them. Hey, the right thing to do is the phone, but many of us do not like the confrontation approach.

Dating someone with financial problems

I received the following recently:
Dear Jay,


I am wondering if any of your readers have faced a similar situation. I had gotten involved with a woman and everything was great. About six months into the relationship I found out that this gal had serious financial problems and was going to file for bankruptcy. From that point on, she started asking for me to put a lot of her personal living expense items (e.g. telephone, credit cards) in my name.


This started to cause a significant strain on our relationship and we are no longer together. I am sure I could have avoided this heart ache, had I known towards the beginning about her serious financial situation. It may have deterred me from getting involved.


At what point is it feasible to ask someone about their financial status?


Thank you,
John


So what do you all think about this? Comment in the blog

Body Hair- What do you think?

I was listening to Howard Stern a while back and heard a commercial for the ManGroomer. I have never had an issue with back hair, but then one day saw a little something where it didn't belong and decided to pick up the ManGroomer.

I had also heard a lot of female friends comment that back hair was a major turnoff, so I tend to make sure things are not growing where they do not belong.


So I recently became friends with another gal and the topic of body hair came up at a singles comedy event at the Brokerage. She said "As long as his private area is shaved, he could have back hair, nose hair, chest hair, or any other hair for that matter." Other female friends have recently said the same thing, (not about the privates), but that back hair is not really a turn off anymore.


So what do YOU think about back hair? or any type of hair for that matter?
Comment in the blog

Guys, please don't act like this if you want love

Cuddle Party? What do you think

So you watched the video? What do you think?

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Pretend you are talking to your good friend

I was talking to my friend Lucy about what she looks for in the approach stage.
She said "I want a guy who will interact with me like he is talking to his friends, not coming off nervous or awkward, just being natural."

Her advice to the guys: When you see a pretty woman you want to approach, don't look at her as a pretty woman, try to imagine you are talking to your good friend.

Your thougts